Want to communicate with step sister.?

It seems a little strange that you always had good relations with your sister but all of a sudden after your father died she hates you now ? Maybe something in your sisters life has changed and it has nothing to do with the death of your father / and she is not hating you but just struggling in life. She is older than you and you did not tell if she is married or has children or a demanding job ? Sometimes people are overwhelmed by life and the pressure it puts on them and they are stressed out to the max. Some people also have emotional problems and don't deal with life in general as good as the average person would. You have been trying hard and obviously the problem is with your sister and she has the issues, not you. You love your sister and you are excusing her behaviour and that is a very kind thing to do. You could send her some flowers with a nice card . Try to build on your relationship slowly and pop by every now and than but don't stay to long. Don't feel it's your fault and don't feel guilty because you are the one trying very hard. And that is really all you can do. Hopefully with time your relationship will improve. I have found an article that may help you, please follow the link :

Very confusing. You understand why she is angry at you, but you want her to forget about it? And when you try to express yourself every sentence is full of hate? Either you have explained your situation wrong or you just need to learn to express yourself kindly. I suggest communicating in writing allowing you to revise your words before sending them to your sister.

You are truly the adult here and the wise one.

As much as I understand what you say here--

This girl has her own issues, and the death of your dad (and hers too) has brought out the ugly in her.

A piece of bible scripture Jesus says this :"a good man, out of his heart, brings forth good treasure," you are the good man (girl) despite your young age, you can see things the way you do.

She has allowed the death of dad to make her bitter and not better, as you seems to be.

Until she can come to a point to deal with her demons, and she is not as young as you, she will continue to be that way.

Don't know if this has anything to do with you, but just that at her age, she has to have her mortality in view and where her life is heading at her age.

You cannot make her change, except to continue to be who you are, a sweet young lady with lots of love and no one to share it with (meaning her--since she is who you need, as you don't have dad to guide you).

You did not say if you both live in the same home, but don't change, just continue to be who you are--and when she is ready to be the big sister and act her age--you will have to wait patiently for her to come to her senses.

I re-read the explan and do realize you don't live together--leave her be--but make sure holidays and bdays are communicated by text or cards even if they do unanswered--you did not say if she were married or not and who is in your life if its your mom or other siblings.

You are a good human being, and just pray that she comes back to her senses before it is too late.

Blessings to you.

i would stay away from her until she changes her behavior