Feeling left out?

I'm sorry you're feeling left out but that's what happens to new moms. You have a family you started and now you have to be responsible!

The best thing about your rant is that you said you want to go to school to become a medical assistant. Yes, do that! When you are out of the home experiencing the real world and not the tourist world you will be glad that you did. As far as your husband, when you are poor like you two are what do you expect him to be doing other than playing video games between his work shifts? Sure, he should be doing more to help you and baby, but it doesn't sound like you do much but complain about getting to leave baby behind to go on vacation... And since there's no way he makes over $30k a year, he's doing everything he can to support you and your baby, but you're being kind of ungrateful for all that he's putting in for you. Why don't you work right now and get a sitter?

You never said you clean the apartment/house, you never said you make dinners or other foods, and you never said that you actually take care of your baby (you just stay home all day with baby). So in my eyes, I think you owe your husband an apology!

Now I'm going to dig into you a little and ask, why did you have a baby if you weren't ready to grow up? Did you forget to take your birth control or get your depo shot? I just don't understand why you had a child, you clearly are a kid with a kid. And don't you dare leave, my tax money can't afford more welfare babies.

If you want to go somewhere, then go. Your husband is your partner, not your keeper. You're an adult and may do as you will.

Odd you'd marry someone who seems rather controlling. You should've known this before marriage. Maybe you did get married to the wrong person, and maybe you just have to show him that you don't intend to sit at home and do nothing just because he wants to. He may get mad, but that's his call. You aren't responsible for how he chooses to feel.

Have you tried asking him WHY he doesn't want you to go somewhere with your sister, why he expects you to stay home all week and on weekends when he's free, and why the only people he thinks it's okay for you to see outside of him is his family?

Definitely save up to get yourself an education/training. Whether you stay married or not, you need to the skills to support yourself and your child (and him, if needed). If you don't want to be a stay-at-home mom, then don't be one. LOTS of couples have kids and both work outside the home.

He's preventing you from seeing your family and friends, getting an education, getting a job, and saving your own money?

He's abusive. Someone doesn't need to hit you to be abusive, you know ... control is a form of abuse, too.

You need to get in touch with your sister/parents and ask them to come get you and the baby sometime when your husband is away. And then ask them to loan you the money to hire a divorce attorney.

You are correct that there's no life for you with a controlling abuser. He's not going to change and it's not going to get better. Leave NOW.

Why do so many of you people get married and still insist on trying to act and live as if you are single? Seriously, what part of being married was so confusing to you? Why would someone marry you if they did not want you to be with them and they did not want to be with you? Sorry, you failed to think about or realize that being married meant the single life was over but welcome to reality.

Nothing like a failed marriage story to cheer me up :)

your selfish. the whole story is about you.