My wife moved out over 2 months ago saying she needs her space to figure things out. I miss her, what should I do?

Your wife is an alcoholic and she's in denial. It's likely you've been an enabler by allowing her drinking and taking of drugs to continue. I divorced my wife of 20 years because she's an alcoholic and destroyed our marriage by her constant drinking and mental abuse of me when she was drunk. I've moved on and found a better life with a new wife who isn't an alcoholic or an abuser. I suggest you inform her she can come home were she to go to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings at least twice a week to learn how to stop drinking for the rest of her life. I also suggest not taking her back were she to take even one drink or pop any drugs. You need to take charge of your life and be good to yourself, as she isn't being good to you. I also suspect she's had an affair with another man, as she'd loose her ability to say no were she to be too drunk. I caught my former drunk wife kissing another man at a party we attended and that began my thinking of divorcing her. She is now being pushed into a corner and she has to decide to take care of and by herself because the threat of divorce has no influence on her and won't unless she stops her drinking completely for the rest of her life. I also suggest you attend Al-Anon meetings for those who are affected by an alcoholic. I did, and it helped me a lot to understand the plight of an alcoholic and stop me from ever becoming an enabler again. She has to take charge of her life now or she'll sink deeper into the abbess of self destruction and kill herself doing so. Alcoholism is a disease and it has to be treated or it will get worse. You were right to kick her out. Now you will have to be the caring husband who will stand by while she helps herself so she will be capable of "straightening up". That is if you sincerely love her and want her back as a sober wife. She will continue to make your life miserable were she to chose not to help herself. She's the only one who can change by and for herself and her marriage with you. Nobody, including you, can force her to change. The ball is in her court now. Let her know exactly where you stand regarding this and be firm and don't show anger, rather show love and tell her you care and want her to "find herself" as soon as she begins attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Whether she know it or not, she's destroying her marriage as well as her life and future. There's light at the end of the tunnel, but she alone has to begin taking the journey to bring her life back all by herself. She'll receive a lot of support in Alcoholics Anonymous as those who attend the meetings have gone through the same hell she's going through. I can't stop thinking she's found another man who also drinks or takes drugs. Were this to be the case, a divorce is possibly the only way you can get her out of your life were you to wish to do so. I feel empathy for you as this isn't easy as I've learned first hand how difficult it is to say good-by to the one you chose to be your wife. Good luck to you sir as this will be a journey of self discovery you'll never forget. I haven't forgotten and it's been 29 years since my divorce.

It appears that until your wife gets some help for her alcohol "problem", you are heading down a road without a real solution. She will continue to act in irrational ways, and will be prone to more nights inexplicably away from the house, or these soul-searching journeys to go find herself. Make it clear to her that you want to make things work, but that there have to be some very real changes that take place as a condition of the two of you getting back together. If she is sincere, and her heart is in it, she will do the right thing. If she indicates she won't, then I suggest you give serious thought to moving on. Unfortunately, these situations rarely end well.

Missing her is irrelevant. Hard to deal with but that's the way it goes. Marriage is not about easy. Especially when it comes down to knowing that a marriage has to end unless one of the partners spends a couple of month at a detox center and the rest of their life going to 12 step meetings or there is an immediate divorce.

She is probably feeling that she is not getting the support from you which she needs. Yes, she is an alcoholic but kicking her out of the house is not what she needs, rather tell her you will be with her each and every step if she chooses to recover, going to AA etc.

I'm going to be completely honest with you. You can't have a relationship without trust. So if you do what this relationship to work you both have to be into it and you both have to trust each other. Also, if she has a drinking/drug problem you should see if she would consider going to a rehab center

Hope I helped :)

She wants to find herself free of obligation and responsibility to better devote herself to her main squeeze: her addiction. She loves that best right now.

Your wife is a drug addict ; plus a alcoholic

Right now the only thing she thinks is ;;; drugs and booze

The worst part for you is ;;; you cannot control her addictions

only she can

Thank your lucky stars she left.

Forget her because she has forgotten you by now.

Dump the *****