Ladies, what would you do if you were this man's wife?

You married him the way you found him. He no longer wanted to do all those things and you accepted him as the person he was when you married him.

So you either continue your marriage or you end things if you want to be treated different. Now if you choose to stay you can maybe gradually get him to do a few of the things he did before, but don't make him do this. He's changed for his own reasons - accept him or move on.

This question does not make any sense to me. When I was in my 20's I was different than I was as a teenager and did not handle relationships the same. This was also true of my 30's and 40's and 50's !!! If my husband read my diary from my 20's and expected me to be that person, I would think he has LOST HIS MIND.

I don't know about being betrayed, but she has a right to know about his past. It would make me wonder what else I don't know. Maybe he's hiding a serious problem.

These are all things that should have been disclosed before marriage.

No clue why she would feel betrayed at all. She made her OWN deal. She married the man she's married to. He's not been false to her in any way. If she wanted a man like he USED to be.. then that's the sort of man she ought to have wed. She INTENTIONALLY wed the sort of man she is married to.

With that information in hand, if I wanted to encourage him to incorporate some of who he used to be into our lives.. I'd do it slowly, lovingly, patiently, hopefully and one step at a time without pretending that he "owes" me squat other than the deal I'd already made.

He is all of who he used to be and all of whom he's tried to become. With loving compassion.. she might end up with the whole shebang. She is NOT his victim. She has nothing to blame him for or torture him about. She has not been betrayed.

She married, (she? do you mean YOU) him for stability and now doesn't like stability.

This sounds like her problem.

You cannot be betrayed for a past that was not being displayed when you met and married.

The best you can do is ask for him to give me some of that passion and do doggy once in a while.

You also mistakenly assume that he did more than missionary.

He didn't betray her in any way. He is exactly who she thought he was when she married him. If she wants some of the old guy, then she needs to tell him that, and reassure him that she won't treat him like past lovers have treated him.

"Obviously, this woman feels betrayed."

No, not obviously. We all change over the courses of our lives, some more some less than others. He has behaved in the marriage consistently with how he acted with her before they got married. She got exactly the man she thought she got.

Q1.) If you were his wife, then how would you feel about this revelation?

A1.) Stupid. I should have asked him about his past BEFORE I married him. Since I didn't, I am obviously an idiot.

Q2.) What would be your response to his explanation about his treatment towards you?

A2.) He treated me exactly like I expected him to based on what I knew about him before I married him. So, I would obviously be content with his explanation.

Is he not still the man that SHE married? His past should have no barring on his current life/marriage. There is no reason she should feel betrayed. She married this man for how he is NOW.

People don't change that much, I'd demand to know who he stole the suitcase from.

Why would she feel betrayed? She has a stable husband. She knew what he was when she married him. If she wanted something different, why did she marry him?