If you have a good marriage, but your spouse refuses to ever have sex again. Counseling fails miserably. Stay with no sex, cheat or divorce?

My ex wife tried this sh!t with me in our marriage. Sex life was good leading up to the marriage, but almost instantly after getting married, she went ice cold with that side of the relationship. It's not as if the marriage itself was horrible. We still enjoyed each other's company, took care of one another, and all that other jazz. But she actually said to me that sex was not important to her, and was not something she needed. Unlike your question, she didn't take it as far as telling me that I couldn't have sex with anyone else, but I'm sure she felt that was implied. Truth is, I did start cheating on her. And while I felt the void in our marriage from not having it with her, I was at least getting satisfied elsewhere. Ironically, she caught me cheating years into this, and that eventually led to our divorce. So bottom line, if I had to do it all over again, I would have divorced her right away once it became clear she was dead serious about sex not being important.

If she told him before they got married that she wouldn't be having sex with him, and he married her anyway, then he should stay with her. If she didn't tell him, then he should divorce her if she insists on not having sex. I'd be a little reluctant to leave if they had kids (although even then, I'd do it). But without kids, for something like that, I'd leave without even a little hesitation. Apollenaire's answer is right. His wife absolutely does not love him, if this is how she's treating him.

If you are in a sexless marriage, you're not in a "good marriage" (unless both parties are okay with that).

He should've known her feelings about sex prior to marrying. Sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage, but it's a significant part of what makes a healthy, happy marriage (a mutually satisfying sex life).

I personally wouldn't remain married to someone who said they didn't want sex with me. That would be a deal breaker.

You won't have a good marriage if your spouse refuses to ever have sex again. Divorce

He should divorce her. She is failing to live up to her duty as a wife. If she has a legitimate physical problem which makes her unable to have sex that is one thing. But absent that, she is simply stealing. She wants him to live up to his end of the bargain but wants to cheat him out of what he has a right to.

Need to tell her that you are not happy and need sex because it's connects the 2 of you. If it doesn't work then you need to go separate ways.

Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

My guess is once he files, she'll change her tune very quickly.

leave