Im gay....i dont know what to do...its complicated?

You may find that they will not welcome the news but they may also not react against you in the way you suspect. Their homophobia will be against a stereotype of a gay man. They have known you all your life so they cannot stereotype you. It may enable them to overcome their homophobia when they realise that their phobia, an irrational fear, suddenly includes their son. The biggest message you need to get across is that being gay is not all about sex, which is how we are often viewed. We are human beings who, like everyone else, has a sexuality. Who you prefer to have sex with is not your sole defining characteristic. I do not know your age so it is worth knowing they might say it is just a phase you are going through. Remember to take it easy with them for a few weeks. You already know you are, and have adjusted to being, gay. They now have to make that transition. However, getting used to the idea is not something they can claim for too long. They have to accept that fundamentally you have not changed they just know something else about you. You are still their son and that is the person they should focus on and love.

Then don't tell them. Unless you're holding hands and kissing, they shouldn't be able to tell if he's a friend or a boyfriend, if you're on a date or just hanging out.

So don't tell them. It's no big deal, it isn't their business. Don't stress over it, don't worry, don't tell them - live your life.

Hermes

PS Real family is chosen, find some people who FULLY accept you -- be at peace.

I think you need to let your parents know, that their homophobia is unacceptable and they will be disowned and they will never be a part of your life again if they continue with their foolish ways.

So live your own life since that's what the rest of the planet is doing.