HELP!!! Having family issues with mom?

its hard to help when you don t give details about the problem. I understand that sometimes people don t wanna share personal problems with the world but it really helps to know all of the details. What I can say for now is that whatever is happening talk to other family members and see if they can give you advice on the problem specifically. Otherwise just talk to your mom about the issues and see if you can resolve them that way.

I have some advise that is based on experience. I was a child your age once with a mom, probably much like yours. I grew up and became a mom and had a child much like you and I during our teenage years. So, I know all sides of this scenario.

I have learned a valuable lesson that I have passed onto my children. Listen to your parents and do as they ask without having them nag you. They are trying to teach you life lessons so that when you do grow up and leave home, you have something to go on while having the confidence to do so. I learned that the more I pleased my parents, the more freedom they gave me. That occurred because I built up their trust in me. I taught my own children that what I ask of them is just normal day to day things to prepare them for when they leave home. I also informed them that if they did as expected, they would be rewarded with freedom. Can you believe that I raised two sons who were NEVER grounded? That's right. NEVER. Why? Because they learned to respect me as I respected them. I set limits and they soon realized that they got more when they did not try to take more.

We also had a very open line of communication. I talked to them about many things and in turn, they opened up to me. There was no subject they could not talk to me about. When they were old enough to have sex, I told them to have at it, with condoms I was willing to supply them with. I explained the effects of child support and all that. So, in closing, I can say that communication is key to any healthy relationship with anyone from your parents to your neighbors to your teachers and your friends. Communication is the key.

There are two sides of communication. Talking and Listening. If you have a complaint, then voice your complaint and then make a suggestion for a solution. For instance: On Thursday you have a test you need to study for but your friends want to get together on Monday but your mom wants you to stay home and study. You then state that if you can be allowed to go out on Monday night, you will stay home on Tues and Weds to study for the test. Then, that IS what you do. Earn trust that way. Soon your mom will realize you are a person of your word. Do things around the house without being asked. YOu will be amazed at the outcome, especially when you ask for something you want, whether it be to stay out for an extra hour or for her to give you a ride to your friend's house. If you work, put some gas in her car. You know, WORK WITH HER, not against her.

Its natural. try sorting it out. Talk to her. Write a letter. Most misunderstandings are due to miscommunication

talk to your mom about it and tell her how you feel so you can resolve those issues

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