She says she doesn't care about friends anymore?..?

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So there was this girl and I.. We've been talking for 7 months.. She started talking to me first out of boredom, and gradually we grew attached to each other. We’re long distance.. She lives in Canada, and I live in Chicago.. She seemed like she really grew to like our friendship, and even told me that she didn’t want to lose me. We spoke almost everyday. We eventually gained feelings for each other but she lost hers quickly, and I still have some of mine left. But what really got me was today. She basically told me she didn’t care about our friendship anymore.. All of sudden.. I asked her why, but she didn’t have a solid explanation.. She say that that’s just how she is.. She always changes her mind about things, and says things while she’s in a certain mood. One time she would say one thing, and then the next she would find an excuse as to what it really meant.. Just last week she gave me a birthday card saying that she couldn’t wait to see me.. And we were talking about spending some time together, and all of a sudden all the was thrown out the window. What do you guys think?..

Update:

Now she act like she completely doesn't even care..

King Khameleon · Accepted Answer

There are some reasons that I can think of.  Maybe she:

1.-Is insecure about who she really is.

2.-Has been hurt in the past and is trying not to get too close to anyone emotionally.

3.-Has low self esteem / sense of self worth

4.-Has a hard time trusting people (betrayed in the past).

5.-Maybe she feels that she has to pretend not to be interested in order to keep your interest or convince you to "pursue" her?  Some women do this because that's what their told should happen.  You can maybe try to convince her that you're not going to abandon her.

6.-Maybe there is some secret that you don't know about that she's keeping to herself.  If you want her to share certain things, you can share something about yourself which can lower her defenses (make her feel you can be trusted / make her more comfortable with you).

I don't think she's being completely honest when she says that she doesn't care about your friendship anymore.  I think she wants to be reassured that you won't leave.  Still...think about what type of person she is.  Does she get bored easily?  Does she have many other friends?  Does she constantly need you to reassure her that you care about her?  Try to figure out what she's like (what she may not be showing or telling you) and that may help you to understand if she really means this or not.  I don't think she does.  Good luck, bro.

Anonymous · Answer

it sounds like she has some sort of emotional issue. something could be wrong with her that you don't know about.

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