How do I handle my DIL and constantly crying grandson?

I sympathise greatly,as I am now living with one of my daughters & her two kids.The eldest got married and just never moved out. His wife is a petulant & selfish person plus a bully who treats my daughter with disdain and now expecting their first child which has left me wondering how I will cope.She was & still is spoiled by her mother which doesn't help matters here as she expects the same from us.I can't make any helpful suggestion other than saying that you should tell her to get advice from a paediatrician about the cause of the crying and ask her to respect your space if she lives in your home.

With compassion and offers to help. You sound very judgmental.