What to do with roommate?

Ouch, that's a really tough situation. The trouble is that he is the only one who can change himself. Some people need tough love and will surprise you while others will go under and you never know which way it's going to until get you there.

One thing is for sure, hinting will get you nowhere with your friend. People like that are too wrapped up in themselves to hear "soft language."

Is he bad enough to get into rehab?

I'm like you, a little too nice sometimes. Here's what I would do:

I'd say "Friend, you and I know that this situation can't go on. We need to start working on a plan. From now on, if you want to stay here you have to take a shower and wash your crack, every day, no exceptions and you need to put the trash in the trash can every day." Then chivvy him into the shower immediately and while he's there get his bedding into the wash as fast as you can and hot wash the hell out of it.

Have a look on a site called "unf*ck your habitat" (there's a website and a tumblr, start with the website) which has lots of good articles and strategies of dealing with cleaning, motivation and depression. It's all about making things manageable. I'd link buy yahoo hates it when I put links in my comments for some reason.

Tell your friend that if he doesn't wash himself he has to leave by Monday, and mean it too! He can do this, he can do this for you.

If you get him washing daily (make him set an alarm for it on his mobile or something) see if you can get him to counseling. There may be low cost options in your area. That doesn't cure everything but it helps set the ball rolling. He won't get anywhere until he looks in the metaphorical mirror. If he doesn't go at least three times set him out. Tell him directly what he has to do.

If he manages to do these things do you think you can put up with him a bit longer? At this point set a long term deadline, say 5 - 6 months if you're really generous, 6 weeks if you're not. However, this deadline can be brought up short if he doesn't play ball.

Every week you two should plan one thing he has to add toward getting his **** together. Tell him in advance that his staying with you depends on it. Start with the basics if you have to, e.g. shaving, cutting his toenails, haircut, new underwear. I know it sounds trite, but don't forget to thank him even if he knows that you putting him up depends on it.

Do a resumé together (lots of templates online) to remind your friend that he does have skills.

Set him down and see if he's eligible for any help. The goal is to get him OUT. Does he have other family who are further away from his dealers? That might be a good plan.

Above all, if you do reach the end of your tether and end up changing the locks and calling the cops know that you are not a bad person. You sound very decent and like a deeply caring friend. It's okay if you reach your limit. Some people just don't want to be helped and you are not obliged to drown with them. Don't forget to look after your own well-being.

You could ring the hospital and tell them what is going on or offer to go with him to the doctor..he clearly isn't well if he is neglecting his hygiene and is still suicidal.

If you don't want to do that you could try and help him find somewhere else to live, offer to help find him his own apartment and tell him to clean himself up and help him prepare for job interviews.

If he refuses to accept your help you might have to kick him out, you can't sacrifice your own health and sanity for someone who doesn't care enough to clean himself up for you, his friend's sake.

If he becomes violent definitely call the police to get him.

Obviously he does not work, so make him do some chores each day, that is fair, life is not a free ride, even if one is going to this man made fictional heaven. It is a dufficult climb to get up their, so he needs to start climbing, by helping.

Call me mental hospital to come get him

help him get a job and force him