Why would he do that im so good to him?

Yeah it's frustrating being in your position. You sound like a woman who is doing her best to be a good wife, it's a shame your husband doesn't value that in you.

I apologize on his behalf. I don't know what you should do though. I don't think you can raise a son by yourself just being a medical assistant, they don't make that much. And in general mothers raising sons by themselves is a... curious thing.

If you divorce him you'll have to share your son 50/50. You can just live with your husband and accept he's a cheater though. You lose that sense of security because you're worried he might leave you, but if he does you take half his belongings so... I recommend just staying in the marriage. At least he's not beating you or anything. Don't talk to him about this, it'll only cause arguments and what not, pretend like you don't know about it and just keep being a good wife.

I'm really sorry.

I am afraid it is called: familiarity breeds contempt; in other words, he does not even notice what you do for him and certainly does not notice you as a woman.

Being a good woman, does not automatically equate to having a faithful husband; in fact it is often said about us women: why are we attracted to the "bad guys"? Welll, as it happens, it goes for both sexes. A man generally will stay faithful to one that causes him a lot of mental anguish and I speak from experience, for my husband of 25 year's, has never looked at another woman with desire and he would say that his wife is a pain in the butt!

Before you walk away, which you are most certainly entitled to do, why not take on board that perhaps it is because he just does not notice what you do or takes everything you do for granted and pump things up a little; take him unawares; walk up behind him and kiss his neck and wink and walk away. These tiny actions usually will get a man running toward's their wives, rather than running away.

He, hopefully will realise that he got used to you and suddenly this other woman will seem nothing, in comparison to what he has right in front of him.

You're so good to him. That's what's wrong with you.

He is totally free from mind.

He has nothing to worry about.

There's no worry that can occupy his mind.

So his mind is like a devil's workshop right now.

You are bearing all his burdens. He's carefree.

You're studying so he's is certain that you're going to progress in your career too. Youre going to earn well too.

All he's got to care about whole day is his cheating on you.

You need to pull his reigns.

Warn him of consequences if he doesn't mend his ways.

Plenty of people who cheat, don't do it because things are bad at home. They do it because they lack morals and integrity, because the opportunity presents itself, and because they want their cake and to eat it too. Your husband is garbage. I don't condone you snooping, but you did and you know what he's up to. You being 'so good to him' is great, but not enough to cause a lowlife to be faithful. In his mind, he's got it great at home AND someone to play with on the side.

Finish your education so you can support yourself when your marriage ends (which appears to be a certainty). You may or may not want to go ahead and address what you learned about him and his 'friend'. Your previous posts indicate you're unhappy with hubby (don't get to take trips, all he does is watch video games, etc) and his family (you don't like his bro), so why stay married to someone you're unhappy with? If your posts are true, seems a waste to stay in an unhappy situation when it's within your power to change that.

You're too good to him.

Copy the contents of his phone onto a secure server that he can't access, and get a lawyer, and bring this to the lawyer. As it's proof of him cheating, you can be sure of a decent alimony payment.

Do not ever blame yourself

Cheaters are ALL the same ;; HEARTLESS and VERY selfish

but you are young so you can rebuilt your .life with a decent man

You are very right. Just move on.

he is a ******* asshole , from now own just continue 2 focus on you and your child , and yeaa karma is a ***** .

He is an arragant knob. Just ring me !

Wait.... she has a penis??