Should I try to fix it or just give up on my relationship?

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I have been with the same guy for about 2 years. I never cheated on him. The thought never crossed my mind. However, I recently found out he cheated on me months ago after he got out of boot camp. I wrote him every day for six months and after he gets out, he slept with a woman like 15 years older than him. She bought him a phone, a truck, and a house for him to sleep with her. Then, when he refused and tried to break it off, she broke the truck, took the house, and made sure the phone was gone. Now he wants to try to fix things with me because I never really spent money on him, but I have always been there emotionally and physically. I am just so hurt and confused. I have been trying to ask everyone what they would do and I have gotten mixed reviews. Maybe some outsiders looking in can give opinions.

Jane · Accepted Answer

If it were me, I would break it off. After a betrayal like that, I don't know if I could look him in the eye again, much less be with him for the rest of my life. I don't care if the woman is a psycho and that he rejected her money. He cheated, he lied, and he wasn't there for you emotionally. You don't deserve to be disrespected like that.

But enough about how I feel.

Find out how YOU feel about him. Maybe make a pros and cons list. It sounds stupid, but trust me, it gets emotional and by the end you'll know if you love him, or lovED him.

Then, find out if you can forgive him. Think about your morals. Can you trust this guy? Do you believe him when he says he's sorry? If the answer is no, then the relationship is irrepairable and you should just break it off now. If it's yes, then maybe you can work through your issues. If you trust him, then a few long talks could really work things out between you.

This is something you need to decide for yourself.

Good luck!!

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