Gabrielle

I have been with the same guy for about 2 years. I never cheated on him. The thought never crossed my mind. However, I recently found out he cheated on me months ago after he got out of boot camp. I wrote him every day for six months and after he gets out, he slept with a woman like 15 years older than him. She bought him a phone, a truck, and a house for him to sleep with her. Then, when he refused and tried to break it off, she broke the truck, took the house, and made sure the phone was gone. Now he wants to try to fix things with me because I never really spent money on him, but I have always been there emotionally and physically. I am just so hurt and confused. I have been trying to ask everyone what they would do and I have gotten mixed reviews. Maybe some outsiders looking in can give opinions.

My sister is 13 and I'm 16. She has HUGE attitude problem. We ask her to do something tiny and she has something to say back. My mom asked her to take a bath and she started hollering "I don't like the tone you asked me to do that in". She insists on rubbing on all my boyfriends and taking over conversations no matter who is involved in them. I've tried being nice, punishing her, and anything else... I don't get why she feels she needs so much attention even though everything is already about her!!

Okay, so my youngest sister, let's call her Molly, is acting like a grade A b-i-t-c-h. She dances dirty in public, curses, hits people, talks sexual, and acts out some pretty graphic scenes. I try to help her, but she ends up making excuses & I get mad & I just blow up knowing it's not the right way to handle things. She is starting to be really mean towards me, my mother, my middle sister, and even teachers, anyone that would help her, but she'll be nice to someone who turns around and treats her like crap. How can I help her understand she's going out of control. We have grown up in a super strict, religious household that we both want to get away from. My middle sister, we'll call her Rose, doesn't, but instead of helping Molly, like our mother, she just gets really mean towards her & calls her a whore & stuff. My mother has called me & Molly whores & sluts many times for wanting to break away from a religion that dictates what we wear, what we do, & basically everything, but she isn't doing this in the right manner. Breaking from a religion isn't the same as turning into someone she's not. My baby sister isn't like this. I understand how she can think this because she models how she should live outside of our faith from movies & romance novels, whereas I base my life from my friends who are super supportive. I'm trying to be supportive, but I can't if she's pushing me away.

I'm 14 & my best friend is a guy, well, all my friends are guys, but mainly him. It's summer now & we can only talk through fb cuz my mom hogs the phone & stamps don't cost 10 cents anymore. Anyway, my mom had the computer to fix something on my fb account & he was online & she started to talk to him. I did something I usually NEVER do. I begged & pouted & (oh God) stomped my feet & whined. I DO NOT whine. My mom looked at me like I was crazy and said that it's like I'm addicted to him. I told him about it & he said, "I'm addicted to you, you're addicted to me. We are just a couple of druggies." We laughed it off & we made it a joke, but now I'm wondering if he was serious & am I addicted to him? You see, we've known each other for 3 years & we both like each other a whole lot, it's just that he doesn't want to gamble on a relationship at all & something bad happen & he never gets to see me again. But you see, I don't get attached to people. I have "daddy issues" & mother issues & half brother issues & half sister issues & abondenment issues, basically, I have tons of issues that prevent me from emotionally attaching myself to people so how is it possible that I can be addicted to someone & feel these things when I believe liking someone is an illusion & true love doesn't exist. I don't know if it's cuz he has the same issues cuz he does, he doesn't get "close" to people either. Then, how is it we both go through separation anxiety over the summer & vacations from school. Even the weekends seems unbearable, so he comes over a lot. He's counting down the days until his birthday not because it's his birthday, but because I'll be there at his party.

So, the question is, is it possible for two people to be addicted to each other? It sounds really stupid I know so plz do not point out the obvious & just give me a straight answer.

Here's the thing. I've known this guy for about 4 years. We like each other a lot and openly say we love each other all the time. I asked him why he doesn't just ask me out already. His response was that he doesn't want to take the gamble because I make him feel something he doesn't really know how to feel...happiness. He's basically scared that something bad will happen if we go out. However, I'm not going to waller in self pity and wait around for him, if he doesn't ask me out & another guy I like asks me out, I'll say yes. Yea, I don't want to lose my best friend of 4 years, but he doesn't want the gamble of a relationship, but doesn't want to see me with anyone else. To be honest, I'd hate to see him with anybody else either, but I'm basically the only girl in his life besides his mother and sisters. We love each other, but he hates having feelings cuz "they drive him crazy". Apparently, I came around and turned his perfect little figured out world upside down. He wants to spend all his time with me, but I am gonna flirt and I am gonna go out with other guys if he doesn't. I talked to a friend and she said just to wait, but the thing is, a) im not patient and b) i waited for at least 2 years. We have liked each other in that way for 2 friggin years, we know everything about each other, and he's scared. How do I gt him to be unscared, maybe not even for me, but in general, he's scared of forming bonds of any kind, I don't blame him, but he's so unhappy, I hate to see him unhappy. I don't care if we really end up together or not I just want to convince that not every person is gonna trash his heart. And that he can't live his life all alone and be happy.

I'm 14 years old and going to be a freshman next school year. My grades are mostly A's and I already have a small job of babysitting. My life is pretty much planned out and I'm going in the right track except for one thing...boys. All the friends I have that I hang around are guys. So it's me, this one girl in a group of like at least 12 guys. Some are super protective of me, some are honestly just my friend, and still others are complete jack asses. I realized that if the protective few weren't their, there'd be nothing to stop the jack asses from raping me. I'm serious. Jeremy, Sylis, and Daniel (mainly Jeremy, but the other 2 help) are constantly trying to grab here, pull this off, pin me against a wall, fence, etc. Sometimes, they can be sweet and understanding, but it's usually just a front for something else. Dustin, Tanner, Kendrick, Tyrell, Jovanski, Ben, Josh, and Jason usually come to my rescue. And the rest neither help, or try to stop it. I mean, the jack asses are outnumbered 8 to 3, but they work together to get me alone. I think it started when I let them get away with too much. You know, it started innocent, a hug here or a kiss on the cheek. Then, the moaning & footsies started. Now, they hump me through my clothes & stick stuff up my legs & grab me in places they seriously shouldn't. I know it's my fault to let this escalate, but I didn't think anything of it. I'm kinda crazy at school & guys translate crazy into easy or loose. I stay around the protective ones usually, but like I said, the jack asses band together. High School is around the corner and I can't count on somebody to rescue me all the time. What am I suppose to do?

I know my friends are just joking, but then it makes me ask myself if they really are joking. I'm the only girl in a group of about 10 guys. They can be super sweet, supportive, caring, & protective. It's kinda like their attitude is, nobody hurts Gabby, but one of us. They'd all take the clothes off their backs for me, they did it before & are there when I really need them, but they are guys. Trying to back me into walls, corners, pencils (long story), sticks (another long story), etc. They make tons of sex jokes & often bring friends with benefits up in conversation. Anyway, there are a couple of them who get creepy, like today, J gave an incredibly acurate description of my room, but he's never been to my house. D lives near me & often jokes bout using his gun scopes to spy on me. They even knew my underwear size & what colors I had on today. (Don't ask.) I'm pretty open with them & even when I'm not there, they talk bout me a lot. They even try to figure out my future sex life. I'm 14 & this guys range from 13 to 15.

I hadn't realized how much of a hold on me he had until he started to not come to school that much. Without him the first day, I felt lost and didn't know what to do. When I'm not there, he's depressed. Now, for the creepy parts. He doesn't let me talk to ANYONE else for too long. He literally pulls me to sit on him or near him all the time. He CONSTANTLY touches me & sometimes in places I don't want him to touch. Sometimes, if I don't do something he wants me to do, he hits me. When we have partner projects, I don't have a choice to go with him, even when I want somebody else. When the teacher pairs me someone else, or makes him move away or makes me move, he gets pissed off & starts cursing the teacher/student. I have more fun when he's not there because I feel free & I can do what I want. People see the difference. My sisters love him because they don't know him like I do, he even puts a front in front of my mother. He's been to my house 2 times & twice he hit me repeatedly, but then when I get mad at him, I feel bad, or he starts hugging me. I try to move, but he follows me everywhere. I'm kinda used to stalkerish behavior, but I've known him for 3 years & he just gets worse. He doesn't want to date me & I don't have any feelings that way for him, but he gets pissed when another guy starts flirting with me or if he hears I like another guy. I'm 14 and I feel so stupid helpless, he's not the only guy I let run over me, but the others don't hit me, they just make a LOT of sex jokes. Which is whole other day to explain, I'll probably have a question about that too...

Anyway, tell me what to do with him while trying to keep the friendship because he's been a part in my life for 3 years, but I'll be old enough for my mom to let me date soon & already 2 guys say they'll wait for me. I only like 1 back though. I need to get him to back off. He also finds it cute when I get mad & likes it when I try to hit him back.

Ok, nearly all of my friends are guys and there's only a couple with girfriends & since I'm the only girl in the group, they tend to get a bit touchy. They all have different fantasies with me, other girls, or even teachers. But one they have in common is that they all always ask me to put my hair in pig tails & when I do, they go all gushy. They love pulling them or yanking them or pretend I'm a horse. I have long blonde hair so the Rapunzel thing comes across also. These are guys ranging from 13-15. I just want to know what it is with guys and pig tails.

This involves 4 different guys. Tyrell, Ben, Dustin, & Trace.

Tyrell, likes me a whole lot & asked me out and I don't know how to let him down gently without hurting his feelings or ruining our friendship.

Ben, he's new at our school & he likes me. I'm not sure if I like him or not yet, I don't rlly know him, but he seems sweet, but you see, he makes Dustin jealous.

Dustin & I have been friends for 3 years now. We are best friends, but he can get very controlling. Even more so because of Ben & others. He acts like I can't talk to any other guy. He says over & over he doesnt like me & I don't like him like that, but he gets super jealous when I talk to almost anyone else. He pulls on me & gets mad & when I tell him something, he goes and sulks & then I feel bad, but I'm not gonna let him dictate my life.

Trace- We sorta have unresolved feelings from 2 years ago. I just want to know if I'm over him, why do I still feel like that I should do something to impress him or get his attention?

Hey pplz, I'm a 14 year-old girl & almost all my friends are guys. I'm pretty close to all of them & most of them are pretty protective of me. I don't have a crush on any of them or anyone at this point so I can kinda do some things with them (not sex) and it won't seem as bad cuz everyone knows they r just friends to me. Ecspecially one, Dustin. We've been best friends & nearly inseperable for 3 years. When we are out @ recess he constantly pulls me down on him to sit on him or like in the bleachers he'll sit one under me and (this is gonna sound wrong, but its not rlly) he puts his body between my legs & his head on my stomach. He seems to crave attention from me. What is that?! It doesn't really bother me, I luv the compliments & attention myself, but I just wanna know. ***It's not sexual because if it was, I'd know it if he was, I'm not stupid.

I hate wasting anything. I just think of all the things I didn't have when I was little that I take care of everything I have. I'm talking about paper, food, electricity, and other things. My dad hadn't cared if we ate or not, whether we had an AC or not as long as he had an AC where he worked, & I just don't like wasting paper. How do you feel about wasting?

I have mostly guy friends. I don't have any "feelings" for any of them. I'm the only girl in the group, so some jokes are ok, I'm a big girl. I'm not a very sensitive person.

I just want to know why:

one insists on taking my stuff and hiding it from me

another takes my stuff and always brings it out of my reach (he's really tall)

another grabs my hand a lot and tries to get me to touch him in some places that I don't want to touch (I hit him every time)

another wants me to be by him all the time and even sit on him

another grabs my hand during class and just doesn't let go

another calls me "mommy" or "sissy" and always lays on me on the bus.

That's not all the guy friends I have, but the others don't do anything like that. If it helps, the youngest one of these guys is 12, the oldest being 15, and I'm 13. None of them have girlfriends at the moment, and I don't have "feelings" for any guy at the moment. I just want to know, why do these guys get so touchy, and constantly?

My sister's cat, Molly, who is about 6 months old has a tail that is almost constantly bleeding and raw. It rots off. How can I treat it without going to the vet. (We can't afford the vet) I can usually heal them with natural remedies. Please help, my sister cries about this a lot, and I hate to see her sad and an animal in pain. We've been trying to wash the tail so it doesn't get infected.

Okay, he isn't my boyfriend, but he acts like it. I don't have a crush on him, but he;s more than a friend. I sit on his lap and we are constantly touching each other, but we've never kissed. He's a cross between my bf and my bff. When I try to describe the relationship between us, it's hard. I need one word to describe him. Any ideas?

I'm asking because a guy friend I have says he's not gay, but not straight either. I'm pretty much the only person he would want to hang around after he gets out of school. He's just confusing. We have been best friends for 3 years now. He'll check me out and then when I say something, he'll go, "Well, I'm a boy." He says he's liked girls in the past, but it resulted into too much drama. He kinda fell in love with his video games. (playing 100 hours at a time) We've been to eachother's houses and he often says I'm perfect and I'm his favorite girl in the world. So, with saying those things, checking me out constantly, getting upset when I don't sit on him or let him hold me in public, and other things, it's hard to believe he doesn't find girls attractive.

He has to be lying about something. But what is he lying about?

Okay, so I'm 13, in the 8th grade. This guy in my class cut me. He stopped, but I can't believe how little the teacher did. My hands, legs, and arms are still filled with the scars he caused. Finding anything, broken rulers and a stick he sharpened. I showed the teacher some scars after my mom & my friends convinced me to. I told them teachers don't give a crap, but this still surprises me. She told him to tell me he was sorry and then let him go sit right back where he was right by me. What the heck? I usually take care of stuff myself, and this proves why ppl can't be trusted. Oh but wait, when a child so much as looks or breaths the wrong way around her they get lockdown for at least a week.

He wants to come to my house REALLY bad, in fact, he's coming over this weekend. That's all he's been taling about for 2 or 3 weeks now. He has friends and I have friends, but we usually sit together by ourselves for lunch. Today, there was an empty space with his friends, but he sat with me anyway. We share almost everything. Our milk, our food, jackets, and our friends. He's told me before I'm his favorite girl in the world and that he loves me. Everyone thinks we go out. We are good friends (3 years) so everything can be put in the friend-zone. (Except maybe sharing milk.)

Just wondering because a while back where I live in Louisiana had a ton of flooding & in Australia, almost the whole continent was on fire. I'd rather drown, but 2 of my friends say they'd rather burn. I was just wondering what the rest of the world thinks.

1.) Why do SOME women believe they're the dominant sex, but want to be "dominated" by men for sexual pleasure? No sexism involved. (I'm a 13 year-old girl.) I just don't get it.

2.) I was told all my life I'd never amount to anything, but a housewife. (by my mom) However, I make great grades and already qualify for a couple scholarships. I want to be a surgeon.

3.) My gal-friends (girls that r friends) have been starting to cut me out of EVERYTHING!!! It doesn't bother me entirely too much because I have plenty of guy friends, but I think they are the reason they cut me out. Hanging too much around the guys is causing me to lose all my gal-friends. One has told me that between me & the guys, she doesn't get a word in edge wise. However, I really don't wanna hear bout everything that's wrong with my appearance, or about their on & off boyfriends.

3.) My dad left 2 days before my 7th birthday. I have 2 sisters & my mom. My mom is very judgmental. My sisters look up 2 me as a role model. To be honest, I DO NOT set the best example. At first, having no father figure didn't bother me, but as I've gotten older, it bothers me more & more. I don't want the actual man back in my life, but I've found myself craving the WRONG kind of male affection. I'm 2 young 4 this.

4.) Why do I get so much crap for being blonde? I know I can be shallow somethimes when it comes to other people's feelings, but I'm book & "street" smart.

5.) One of my ex-boyfriends takes up more for me know than when we were going out. One time, this guy made up some stuff about him raping me & saying he posted it on YouTube titled: Look at the Ugly Slut I Just Banged. My ex got all of his buddies & kinda shook the guy up. He doesn't like me like dat anymore, but we remained good friends cuz we both wanted 2 break up around the same time. Today, he beat up a another guy making fun of my sister. He never did anything like this while we were going out. (That video does NOT exist.)