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How to get over this?

So I have had a best guy friend for many years. He helped me through thick and thin, and is truly a great person. Honestly he's amazing.

He had been into me for a time, but I had decided I wasn't ready for a romantic relationship. Now I'm over all the issues I had been having when he asked me out (failed relationship, family issues, death of a close friend, etc) and things have calmed down, he's found someone else he's keen on. I'm very happy for him, and I wish him nothing but the best. But now I feel upset for myself, which is really selfish of me. How do I get over this feeling? It's like, now that he's dating someone, I wanna be with him. But I don't want them to break up, because they're so cute and happy. What can I do?

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  • G M
    Lv 6
    4 years ago

    Unfortunately nothing,

    You friend zoned him for reasons all your own I'm sure they were good ones at the time, now you can either wait or move on. I recommend not waiting it will just end up making you bitter. If you really and truly care about him let him be happy "until he's not" with minimal interference.

    The upside of this rather dismal situation is you can definitely use the relationship you had with him as a template to base future relationships on.

  • 4 years ago

    Sometimes timing in relationships sucks. There really isn't anything you can do. Only if they do break up eventually, if you are still available, then you could tell him how you feel after he has some time to deal with his loss but while he is in the relationship, just be his friend like you always have been. Love him as your friend.

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