What are some intelligent ways to point out to elderly parents that it is time they moved to a safer and easier to handle location?

I understand this problem, all too well. Part of the problem is pride: these folks have been independent for decades and it is very very difficult to admit to becoming not independent. I would suggest that the best way to get them around to the idea of moving is to get them to propose it themselves. Exactly how you approach that is going to depend on the people we are discussing, their individual ways of thinking about things and processing ideas and information. The last thing you want to do is get them to turn defensive through them perceiving your concerns as an attack on them, personally.

The way we did it with my mom was to just mention how much her issues (and my dad's) were for us, given that they were living out int he country. Ultimately, it was a fall that killed my dad, although only indirectly (the post operative infection is what killed him; people in the mid-90s don't deal well with operations). This event is what finally convinced my mom to move into town and into an assistant living facility. They had been together for 65 years about, so she didn't have much desire to live all alone in a house that reminded her of the now-departed, and she is still smart enough (has her brain functions still) to realize that she could not live alone any longer. But that only came about with a lot of reluctance and resistance.

Your question is a very difficult one to answer.

It would help to know WHY they're having to visit the hospital. Is this an assortment of physical ailments, or is it more about their mental capacities diminishing? Also, are they both in the same position? What can be hardest of all is if one parent is a lot healthier than the other, or one is more physically failing and the other mentally.

Anyway, you ask what will convince them, or what to "point out", and this is a quick trip to nowhere. They'll just dig in and you'll get frustrated. What will be most useful is if you or your husband can be "onsite" for a couple weeks, do the legwork for them and identify specific places or options. It's overwhelming for older people when they realize they're losing their independence and so many major, practical items need to be handled: selling the home, downsizing possessions, etc. But....there's also a positive side to all this, assuming they're still pretty healthy. They'll have a built in support network and continue to socialize.

The other option, of course, is see if they'd be open to moving closer to you. You wouldn't want to become their full time caretakers, so it would be a facility of sorts. Or even a senior community with medical services. It's hard to say without having any idea of their finances.

The short version of all this is there really isn't gray area here. Until you're in a position to step in and handle the details, your other option is leave it alone. They're free to make their own decisions, even if they aren't good ones.

If they own their current home, its not that simple to just pick up and move into assisted living. A lot depends on their health and state of mind. It may come down to one of them becoming incapable of taking care of themselves and/or too much for one or the other to take care of both of them. It also depends on their financial situation. I have no doubt they have been giving it some thought. Do they have any siblings that may have already gone through this? Perhaps they could help.

thats what i like to know. my parents need help on things . my mom told me no when i suggested it. when you get up to a certain age,well we all know what happens.

offer to hire a live in for them

You should call senior services to have the situation assessed.