I just found out my father smokes..
He LIED to me!?

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So I was flipping through my fathers messages and i found out something I wish I hadn't known. All my life I was told to believe I had asthma from birth and it was genetic (actually nobody in my family has asthma) but now I know how I have it. I am actually allergic to smoke and my family knows. I am so disgusted. I want to end my life. I know he is going to live a short life and that makes me sad. Could smokes make him be aggressive? Please tell me the mental side affects. I want to move out from this disgusting smoke smelling home. But I'm only 13. Help. If I talk about this to someone, my dad will find out I looked through his messages and he will go haywire on me.

Ace · Answer

Look, sometimes parents have to lie. It's called a "habit".

Also, that isn't that much of a "secret". Just because he lied to you - doesn't mean that it's so important. It's just smoking, it's not that big of a deal unless he smoked some illegal drug attached to the smoke.

There is more bigger secrets - like if your parents never told you that you were adopted; or if one your dad or mom was cheating on your other parent.

So just because your dad lied to you about him smoking, you shouldn't be mad at him. You can't change his habits, and maybe it's hard for him to admit that he smokes.

And if you're actually allergic to the smoke, find some way to not be by the smoke. Simple.

The_Sub_Human · Answer

I wish my family held bigger secrets... Say that I was adopted... That would explain why I have always been the odd one and it's comforting to know I'm not bound to the genes of who I consider to be my "parents".

Pearl L · Answer

just ask your parents for permission to go stay with someone else if the smoke bothers you

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