Is this considered as cheating - what do you think?

What I think:

Alcohol is not an excuse for bad behavior.

Saying it's not cheating because you didn't intend to do anything, doesn't change the fact that you may have done something. People who hit someone else with their car are still charged with the other person's death, even if hitting them wasn't intentional.

You're not taking full responsibility for your actions or you wouldn't be trying to minimize what happened. Per your post, you don't really know what happened. The stupid thing was you telling your wife. If your story is true, you should've kept your trap shut, and learned the lesson that you have an alcohol consumption line that you should never cross again. Instead, to alleviate your guilt, you shared the info with your wife who now wants to leave you (over behavior you're not even sure of). What was the point in telling your wife you screwed up, if you're remorseful and don't ever intend to do it again? You had no intent to cheat, so why deliberately hurt her and damage her trust in you? If you had truly cared about her, you'd have carried the incident to your grave.

I think you make extremely bad decision especially in front of your boss and then spilling your guts to your wife. You boss knows that you drink too much and will act like a moron until the club had to ask you to leave. I would not want someone with your judgement working for me. Your wife has a right to dump you. What if she went out with the girls and acted like you, got drunk and humped a man all night? Then can home with AIDS or a STD? Then what, she infects you too? But look, she got drunk, would you accept that excuse?

When it all adds up, yeah I am afraid this is cheating. However look at it this way, if your wife went out with the girls and had a little too much to drink and ended up in bed with another man you would be pissed at her for CHEATING on you.

Yes, that's cheating - and you're an idiot in more ways than one.

I think you acted like an idiot. In the movies, that gal in your bed would be dead. Guess you're getting off easy!

shoulda kept quiet mate if you cant explain it and you dont know what happened then as far as you know nothing happened and your in the clear but since you told your missus it's up to her to decide whether you're wrong or right

Over drinking itself punishable !

Yes. You did a bad thing. Pay the price.

From what I heard, you weren't even drunk and you didn't even stay the night over. Guess the guy knew he could just treat you that way.

Sigh.....you were an idiot to tell your wife. How could she not get mad????