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Is there a way to get father in-law to stop giving me advice?
I feel like it's out of place for my wife's father to be telling us all the thing's we're doing wrong. We have 0 debt, and are living under budget, yes --- this means we invite people over instead of going to fancy places. We're living just what we need (along with the 1 time/week fun thing) in order to save $$ for my wife school costs.
That said, father in law is telling me I am not taking care of his daughter doing this.... whilst he has $30,000 debt junk cars & lives basically homeless
I once tried to hold a conversation and politely express my thoughts -- but always cuts me out and says 'no--- listen to me. I know what you are doing, but...' and literally goes on for an hour not letting me or my wife speak...
Both my wife and I are starting to get irritated, but don't know how to tell him off without being rude
4 Answers
- 4 years ago
Years of experience talking here. Suck it up. Be the good son-in-law. Smile. Nod. "I see." "Good point. Yes, I've tried doing that and I'll look into that. What do you think of this? (choose some random thing)" "So Dad, if you don't mind my asking, when you first married Mrs.Buttermilk, how did the two of you handle blah blah blah? ***** Really? Fascinating. **** Wow. ****" It's politics. This will go on for hours. Days. Weeks. Months. and yes, YEARS. But find out what he likes. Is it basketball, football, was he in the military (find out about his heroics), fishing, automobiles (get his advice on fixing a junker), you always are interested in getting his input. Right? His knowledge is INVALUABLE. And his baby girl - everything she does is perfect. She made the most amazing cookies for you. Etc. Good luck. Patience young Skywalker.
- Anonymous4 years ago
My step-Dad is like that
- MOZLv 74 years ago
Just be polite, and say "Thank you, I'll keep that in mind." And go about your business. Keeping it in mind doesn't mean you'll act on it. If he asks why you didn't do what he advised, tell him, "I considered what you said, but decided to go in a different direction." And then go about your business.
If he is your father in law, he's going to give you his advice, that's just the way things are. But you are NEVER obligated to follow it.
