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How should i treat my "girlfriend" when i see her ?

Hi, trying to keep this short

I live in NYC she lives in Cali, we met on a cruise in Miami.

She visited me twice within 3 months after the cruise and was crazy over me, i felt bad cuz i didnt feel the same way, i liked her but not so serious.

after she leaves nyc the 2nd time she wanted to be serious so i said ok im with it.

She convinced me to book a ticket to cali so i did.

And honestly is wasnt just to see her, spring break i always go away for a couple days and my cousin lives there i will stay with him.

two weeks before i arrive ( today ) she tells me long distance relationships dont work she misses me and cant be with me bla bla... lets just remain close friends.

I know she still likes me alot ( idk why xD lol i treated her like any girl cuz i knew she was about these games )

Question is how should i treat her when i get there ? should keep it as it was, making out getting drunk having sex or is she testing me ? should i show her abit more affection ? should i show her less than usual ?

Shes a very nice girl but she has some issues (trust and too much playing games)

I just keep it real i hate playing games.

Thanks in advance everyone. :]

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  • 4 years ago

    If you want her to keep it real then you need to also. Instead of trying to figure out what she's thinking and altering your behavior based on what you think she's thinking, take time to consider how your actually feeling. You said you weren't that into her, but you seem to want her back. Do you actually want her, why, why not? What king of relationship do YOU want? Be honest with yourself and then be honest with her. Would you want a friendship or casual hookup if theirs no relationship? Once you know these kind of answers you can act in the way you want to for you, and you can tell her how you feel, and ask her how she feels. If you give into the whole let's read each others minds game it will never end. If you truly hate games then don't play them.

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