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I don't think men understand and I didn't want a bunch of them answering like "you're only bragging cause you secretly like it or anything", but how do you avoid unwanted attention from men in public? I'm not just talking about stares but like, actually getting approached, followed, having a guy sit with you when you're alone, and sometimes legitimately getting asked out? It's really appalling. Even when you're on your phone, or you've got your headphones in and you're obviously watching a show/listening to music. Even if you've got your computer or a reading out and you're obviously doing work. No matter how hard you avoid eye contact or how terse you are with them, they keep trying.

I've sort of become used to being generally anxious when I go out, and I've become quite good at being straight forward and abrupt with them, but my sister is only 13 and she's recently hit a growth spurt and I'm also worried about her cause she's also been getting stares from grown *** ******* men. I don't want her to have to deal with this especially since she's already got anxiety issues. I wish I could give her advice on how to avoid it but I really can't. All I can say is "don't be too rude to them cause they're often entitled and might have anger issues". It makes me quite angry.

? · Answer

I completely understand this. Some guys are relentless and also getting interrupted like that is not ideal, it's annoying and sometimes it's rude.

I wish I could help

Athena · Answer

Don't worry.
It will soon pass.  In just a few short years no guy will look at you, or make a pass at you or do anything but approach you to see f your "friend" might be interested in him.

As for the few years you have left, grow a spine.

Listen sister, I am 5' 11" tall and since high school I have had the boobs the butt and the hair.  I know exactly what you are talking about, but unlike you, I had a dad who loved me.  Part of that love was teaching me about the boys you describe, and what to do about them.  I sit the way I sit and and anyone who approaches me, and I don't want, I tell them to just keep walking.   I also generally go to places where the manager and I have an understanding, so if the little boy starts to throw a fit, he is asked to leave.   I am not a ***** and I don't make a scene.  I give them one chance to leave with their manhood in tact, then I kick them in the *@!!$.

We are suppose to be empowered or something.  Every commercial slams our kid sisters with messages that we can do and be anything.    Yet you cannot even brush off an annoying little boy with delusions of grandeur?

Come on honey, time to grow a pair.

(One other thing.  I worked my way through college as a booth bunny.  You know, those gals in the almost not there outfits who sell boats and cars at the shows?  I learned a lot about how to handle drunk party men who are trying to impress their business friends.)

Leanne · Answer

I get harassed in public and I’m married and I even have men stare at me or try to approach me when I’m standing with my baby! My husband was with me ordering food and someone approached when he was in. You just stare straight ahead with no emotion on your face and not reacting to or speaking to any of them. Look like you have no time for them and they’re so uninteresting you didn’t notice they exist. You can’t stop people staring just don’t look at them back or say anything if they speak to you.

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