Paying kids to do chores?

When you’re at work you are getting paid to do what your supervisor tells you to do...so that’s the difference, that analogy doesn’t really work now. When i wanted money as a child i asked, my parents asked me why. No drama, i never did chores, i think the housekeeper kept pretty busy doing them though

NO, you shouldn't pay them. They should help out around the house because that's what families do -- they help one another out. Depending on their age, they should be cleaning their own rooms, doing their own laundry, cleaning the bathroom that they use, taking out the trash, walking the dog, cleaning the kitty litter (if it is "their" cat), setting and clearing the table for dinner, emptying the dishwasher, etc. That's how they learn to do things that they'll be doing as adults. They should also have an allowance (not connected to their chores) so they learn how to manage their money. The allowance shouldn't be too generous, either.

It is up to what works for you and yours. For my son, he had expected chores to do, if he wanted to earn money there was a list of additional chores he could do. After he had already done the required chores. For my daughter, i just gave up trying these stupid systems.

Yes, you should definitely give them a small amount of money starring out but as they get older increase the amount of money.

Depends on the chores. Basic upkeep and house care? No.

If they go out of their way or do extra like your laundry or making your bed than yes

Maybe I'm jealous because my brothers and I never got allowances but we worked harder every day than some adults.

At four, we were responsible for feeding and watering the dogs and helping Grandma and Mom can vegetables while we learned how to tend the garden. At about six, we checked the fence and watered the cattle twice a day. At the age of seven we were mowing the lawn (a total of eight acres), building and fixing fence that contained eighty acres, and planting and tending enough vegetables to last the family of five for a year. By ten, we chopped wood for the work shed, did the weedeating on 140 acres, chose bulls from the AI book to breed our cows, and were responsible for the cattle getting bred so we could have meat and money from selling them. That means watching them every day two or three times a day in the breeding season to see which ones were in heat and getting the ones in heat into the pen, calling the AI technician and scheduling service. Then we would rope, halter, and restrain each cow or heifer as the technician worked on her. At that age, we also flushed game for hunters and learned how to dress and butcher. By twelve, we were hunting with shotguns, driving tractors, repairing the water pump in the well, assisting with vehicle repairs, laying carpet, and doing other household maintenance. The whole time, we did what we were physically able to do as unpaid roustabouts for our dad's "business". We were doing hazardous jobs involving welders, dozers, and frac tanks, with the possibility of fire, electrocution, or various injuries. We were taught well and were smart about it so we were always safe. Dad did not make enough money to support us so we had to work to support ourselves. We never got any pay for our work. Not even a word of appreciation or pride.

I don't think children should be paid for doing chores. The purpose of having chores is to teach children responsibility. It should be expected that the chores should be done without being reminded. An allowance could be a useful tool to teach financial responsibility but it should not be tied to chores.

It’s important to remember that the children of today have more opportunities then we did. With opportunity comes privlage, with privlage comes entitlement. If entitlement is not matched up, you feel dissappoinment and therefore resentment towards the source of dissappoinment. In my opinion, teaching children that there are rewards for hard work would improve both their development and your relationship with them. It doesn’t nessasarily need to be rewards in money, you can use treats or outings to encourage them.

No, never.

Kids have to help around the house especially since its them who made most of the mess, you don't get rewarded for doing what you are supposed to do, you get rewards for going above and beyond.

I am a kid so my opinion may be biased. But, I am a fair kid. It really does depend on everything. It matters the number of children you have. It matters if your children act the same. If you have one child, it depends on their personality itself.

Let's make a list:

One child:

If they normally do chores and are responsible - give them money or a reward once in a while

If they are irresponsible and refuse to do it at all - tell them to do the chore and maybe get a reward or only if they do good on it. Get them into the habit of doing more chores. Give them less and less and they will eventually get the hang of it and realize that doing chores in itself is rewarding. If that doesn't work, put themselves in your shoes and they'll see how much work a mother/father/etc. really does to keep the family together.

If the child if irresponsible but is willing to do it but just for a reward, the same as above will help. Especially giving it once in a while then the more they do, the better.

More than one child:

Like my family, you may have one responsible and one irresponsible child or at least one of each. In this case, it wouldn't be fair to the more responsible one because they're actually doing it in the proper way. In this case, almost always reward the responsible child and when the irresponsible child asks why they don't get rewarded, sit them down and have a talk on why.

If all children are responsible or all children are irresponsible, follow the one child rule with both.

REMEMBER THIS: Never ever give you're child money every single time. They may grow to by greedy.

it is called an allowance, give your daughter one for doing chores . daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa