How do I survive a holiday get together with family members that don't want to talk to me?

I think you approach them and have a civil discussion beforehand!

You both have something in common here, and thats neither side wants a fight filled christmas, that is the ties that bind! I would suggest going to them and say "look I want to have a peaceful christmas, and I know that despite our issues, you want that as well, I am well aware that the issues between us won't be resolved any time soon, but I hope we can be civil with each other over the get together".

This shows maturity on your end, shows to them you have good intentions and I can assure you they will lower their guard and meet you in the middle on this.

i would go, nnaybe they'll get over it by then and talk to you

Even if they move out if state. That is not going to solve anything.

Shirt if NOT going, there's nothing you can do. Your family members can be your worst enemies.

If either of them dies before you see them again, how are you going to feel? I almost did NOT go back to school out of state, but I realized that would upset my father more than if he died alone in his own bed. That's what happened.

Count your blessings. There are people like me who have no close family members and very few friends. My closest friend is out of state.

This is WHY many people dread the holidays.

Why did you apologize if it’s something you didn’t do.

Ignore them. Don’t go to their house. It’s that simple.