My little girl is a spoiled brat?

I don't see anything wrong with her lightly joking about the lipgloss. What she said wasn't rude, unless she was saying it in a rude tone. I was gifted scented lip balms when I was as little as 5. They really are harmless- just something fun to play with. Plus, I used to buy lip gloss and balms in high school to help with chapped lips.

I think your daughter is at an age where most girls are given the freedom to get a taste of independence and what it means to be an adult. Maybe she feels like she's missing out? That being said, I am only hearing one side of the story and I don't know everything, only what you've told me.

I do agree, social media isn't a good idea for someone that young. I opened a Facebook account when I was 14 and even though I never posted anything risky, my posts were quite immature at times. I have since created a new (adult) Facebook account for myself.

I don't think it's very kind to refer to her friends in that manner. From what you're saying, it sounds like her friends are sneaking into clubs, drinking unsupervised, not putting any effort into their studies, encouraging your daughter to throw her life away etc. Is that really the case, or are you just making a judgement because you don't like the way they are raised? When I was 14, I had the freedom to go out with my friends outside of school. We'd grab some snacks from the shop then walk to the park and enjoy the sunshine for a few hours, we'd go to the movies together, ice-skating, tennis courts, or we'd have sleep-overs on birthdays. Just normal teenage stuff. We were always home by curfew or we were picked up by parents. To be honest, I'm glad I had those freedoms growing up because they helped me develop into a more independent adult. I was never tempted to rebel against my guardians because they 'didn't let me do anything'. I grew up in a household where I had expectations and where there were understandings between myself and my guardians. I knew the rules and I followed them, and in return, I was granted the freedoms they felt I was mature enough to have.

So that being said, is your daughter mature enough to have any of these freedoms? Is she old enough to work a few hours during the weekend to save some pocket money for herself? Some freedoms are good- they help kids grow. Not everything is bad or dangerous.

I wouldn't get her the phone that she's asking for and explain to her that the juvenile delinquents are not good people to hang with. However I think social media is ok though as long as she doesn't spend too much time on it and the pop music is ok too at her age as long as it isn't too inappropriate. For example I don't think It's a big deal if the songs she's listening to have a few curse words in them because she probably hears those words at school anyway but if the songs are about things like bashing cops or drugs then don't let her listen to it.

Trolls gonna troll.

It s normal for girls her age to be doing these things and honestly, she probably gets bullied for having an overprotective parent like you (but I lowkey think you re a troll), and it s hard to let your kid grow up but wow let her have a life

There is a book called “Young People Ask” that my children benefitted from. Perhaps you may find it helpful. I wish you well.

https://www.jw.org/en/search/?q=Young+people+ask

Remember the utter importance of corporal punishment for girls of this age. Nothing focuses the mind of a miscreant girl of the troublesome teenage age more than the thought of imminent and painful correction of the corporal kind, administered by a fearsome instrument of correction played with tremendous vigor in the great hall of the bare posterior.

Are you a troll

Troll

Right, you are the parent and you make the rules.

You can't expect her to love the decisions you make. That is fine.

It amazes me how many parents give their kids everything they want and the kids treat their parents like sh!t. If my kid was not behaving with respect and doing the right thing she would not be rewarded with expensive gifts. If they smoked, drank alcohol, disrespected me, or did drugs the first thing I would do is cut off all pocket money. If they are mis-spending the money knowing it is on things you would not approve if then stop supplying the money and tell them they do not get anymore until they stop these stupid dangerous things. Just tell your daughter that you are not an ATM to dispense all the money she wants spent on herself. She has to understand that some money has to be saved for future expenses and of course you need some for your own needs.

The fact is some teenage girls are super selfish and expect the world to supply their endless wants. These girls can be very difficult as they only want their bedroom, to be fed and clothed, and you to buy them expensive things because the other teenagers have them. Beside that they want you to butt out if their life. They believe they are more adult than they are and believe they should be able to do as adults do, but when it all crashes badly the first person they generally turn to is their parents.

Do you expect her to do chores or is she a total moocher who believes you should do everything for her. She should not be getting pocket money for doing nothing as in life nothing is for free. She is not a little kid anymore and should be learning life's lessons that you have to pull your weight in society as life is not a free ride.

Personally I believe you have created this monster and now are struggling to control it. I am assuming maybe there is no father in her life as you have not mentioned him and this can make it worse. Many women dump dad not realising the damage it can do to kids and single parents try and compensate this with expensive gifts which the child comes to selfishly expect, and as teenagers they can rebel against you. It will be hard for you to get your daughter back as likely she has already got used to this life of you supplying all her expensive wishes, and has now started to find less than desirable friends to hang out with. Likely they are also telling her to disrespect you and show her maturity as all stupid teenagers do in their immature way. Likely it will not end until she is an adult and has mentally mature and realises mom did really care about her and was only trying to be realistic and caring. Some girls run away believing they will be better off without their family as they believe their family is trying to keep them as a child. Sadly it can be a hard time for families when a daughter goes off the rails and all you can do is your best. I have seen girls call in family services claiming beatings or other abuse so they can be removed legally from their family and generally are put in with friends they want to live with in a lifestyle that mid teen children should not be living in and there is little their parents could do about it.

All you can do is your best but buying your daughter's love with expensive presents will only bring disrespect.