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In laws never remember their grandkids' birthdays.?
My husband and I have 4 kids. We see his parents fairly regularly (usually for dinner) and the kids enjoy going to their house. My husband gets along well with his parents and while I don't NOT get along with them, his mother and I in particular have never had a close relationship (completely different people). However, I always make every effort to attend birthday dinners and other special occasions with his parents, plus I always remind my husband to call them for their birthdays.
My problem is that my in-laws never remember our kids' birthdays, never take any initiative to call them or us for their birthdays, or even send a message. It's only ever if I post something on Facebook wishing the birthday child a happy birthday that my MIL will actually comment and say Happy Birthday. Is that a bit strange? I just think it's really sad. Our kids are never shown any affection by them, either.
Do you think it's just the type of people my in-laws are or do they just not like my kids/me?
8 Answers
- ?Lv 72 years ago
I don't get my grandkids birthday gifts at all. I will call them, but otherwise, i can't afford to buy presents. I do get them holiday gifts though.
You are obsessing about the in laws instead of living your life and doing what a parent does for their kids -- and i think having expectations of others is a bit irrational.
- ?Lv 72 years ago
Do they have any other GKs? If so, do they treat them the same way they treat yours?
- 2 years ago
It appears you will have to keep reminding them of the kids birthdays. Things could be worse.
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- Anonymous2 years ago
i don't remember MY OWN kids birthdays. my elder son is in his late 20 i still am confused is it 27 or 28. your issue seems to be sucked out of finger. admit it - u hate his family, this is the problem
- Anonymous2 years ago
It should be their son and not their daughter in law who is prompting these people to do something for the birthday child. And it should be a direct "Tomorrow is Biffy's B-Day; what time will you be calling Biffy?" and not "hints" on social media. The way to get what you want is to let people know clearly what it is you want, not to drop hints.
- Anonymous2 years ago
Looks like its just the way they are. Do not dwell on it, it will not change anything. If it bothers your husband, he needs to say something. If you say anything, your MI will only be more distant with you.
- Land-sharkLv 72 years ago
This is why it is insane to demonstrably not get on with your in-laws. People simply don't like walking on eggshells and pretending to be nice. Your husband should do the birthday reminding, I expect they see it as 'instructions' if it comes from you.
