Should I feel any way about my boyfriend not surprising me even after we had multiple talks about it?

If little things are what you really mean then how about you just start getting little cards to tuck in his hand, on his pillow, in his car etc. I did that with my husband and within a couple of months he started getting me cards and sticking them where I'd find them. Three -5 times a year keeps me happy and surprised. It's touching. We eat, live, holiday together .. sounds like you do too. It's not like he's NOT thinking about you!

If you feel you do an unfair amount of the cleaning then address that. It's a separate issue.

Your boyfriend is not YOU. You are two different people, he doesn't seem all that romantic (most guys are not). And why do you have to "talks about it" with him as if he's 12? You're not his mommy. But you do seem to be a control freak.

the thing is, if you aren't comfortable with the person you're with, and can NOT accept them at face value (like you're not doing right now), then why are you with the guy at all?

I think what you are explaining here is a typical male, some men are like this and others aren't, if you are with one that isn't and they have never been like it, then unfortunately they are not going to change. They clearly just don't think about things like that and don't class them as important, no matter how many times you talk about, I think you will end up with the same result. The only thing I can suggest is weighing up your relationship and whether everything else about him is worth more, then if it is, stop thinking about it and accept what is. If it isn't, make sure surprises is on the list when looking for your next partner.