My son doesn't like going with his dad. When is a good age to let a child decide?

I would want to ascertain why they do not want to go to dads maybe dad just sits in front of the TV and they do nothing. If a young child has nothing to do when at dads is bored or dad is not being a dad why would he want to go. I think it is important for a young child to spend time with his father but once a teenager like around 13. I would let them make the choice if they want to or not many kids at this age are hanging out with their friends and want nothing to do with their parents. Joint custodial parenting and such a judge may have to step in and tell the father its the kids choice because more than likely they will not take the mothers word on it!

Age is unimportant, you need to determine why your son is objecting and deal with it.

You go by whatever the judge ordered and if the child starts balking at the visitation schedule you have to go back to court to have it amended. You could actually lose custody if you just arbitrarily decide not to follow the mandates of the child custody order.

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A child needs both a mother and a father, and he needs to spend time with both. So if your son is saying he doesn’t want to see his father, then you need to inform him that his dad is a good man/loves him, and that he should want to spend time with his father.

And idk if you’re doing this- but you DEFINITELY shouldn’t be badmouthing his father to your son. That would be evil and it harms your child

This also isn’t up for you to decide at all. It’s only up to a court. You have no legal authority (or moral authority) to prevent the father (who’s an adult) from spending time with the child

I'm assuming you're not with the child's father anymore and you mean having his dad take him out for the day. Well, it's through no fault of the child that his in this predicament and no Court Of Law can even force a scared child to spend time alone with their father until that child deems comfortable enough to do so.

If i were u i wouldn't have my child do anything he doesn't want to besides he is 12 yrs old etc i think he knows whether he wants to go or not if i were you i would ask him how he feels about going to see his dad and if he didnt want to go then i wouldn't make him go.If there is a legitimate reason why the child does not want to go, then you need to petition the court to change the visitation order.

When he is 18 and thus an adult.

'USUALLY' a Judge will ask the child around 12 or 13 .......................