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What's the best way to ask a girl out?
I've been seeing this girl at my gym for about 4,5 month. She looked interested and caugh her looking from time to time then I decided to approach her. I waited for her to finish her workout and I kinda introduced my self and asked her about her workout. After everytime I see her, she tries to avoid me. Now she doesn't avoid me completely like she's still looking from time to time and she seems to be fine working out around me but everytime we come across she tries not to look at me. Now I feel she is a little shy and I want to ask her out but not sure how to approach her. Any suggestions
3 Answers
- ez2tock2Lv 72 years ago
Never ASK someone for a Date.
Asking puts a person on the defense of HAVING TO MAKE
a decision and giving you an answer.
Most people say NO, because "No" is SAFER for them.
Later on THEY MIGHT regret they said No and feel like
they blew their chance with you.
If you INVITE someone to join you somewhere,
they have time to think about it without pressure and
can make a decision without giving you an answer/response.
HOW TO GET A DATE WITHOUT ASKING:
INVITATIONS and ASKING for a Date are the same thing,
but an invitation is easier to offer, rather than ask for a date.
Writing a note and handing it to her or having someone deliver it to her, will be okay.
Most invitations are in WRITTEN FORM. (add ph# so now She has it)
Texting an Invitation will also be Okay, after you get her number.
Tell her where you will be on a certain day and at a certain time.
Let her know she is welcome to join you if she has time.
EXAMPLE: "I'm going for ice cream after school/work at (location),
you can join me if you're not busy... My Treat."
YOU WON'T HAVE TO FEEL EMBARRASSED if she declines.
It was just an invitation, NO BIG DEAL.
HOW TO BE WITH SOMEONE; ONE ON ONE
Make a wager (bet) with the person you want to spend time with.
Lose that bet to them INTENTIONALLY.
The wager should be something that puts you together alone and
away from everyone you know.
Make the wager something you can afford and non threatening
or too suggestive.
(an ice cream cone, a milkshake, a coffee, even washing a car)
EXAMPLE: "I'll bet you an ICE CREAM SUNDAE, I can say
the alphabet backwards faster than you."
Then LOSE the bet and take her for an Ice Cream Sundae.
(Enjoy Your Date)
If it scares you to take these steps, keep in mind YOU'RE SCARED ANYWAY.
Also if some other guy gets her attention, you'll wish you had done SOMETHING.
CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID,
to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected.
After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit"
Torturing yourself with Worry, Curiosity and Desire.
But Don't Live in FEAR of the person you Desire.
Get Accepted or Rejected, but settle this FOR YOU.
REJECTION ONLY COUNTS, IF YOU ACCEPT IT
IF SHE SAYS: "I don't want to ruin our friendship OR
I just wanna be friends”
SMILE BIG, look her in the eye and say:
"Then don't “F” this up for me."
Or explain to her. "We can still be friends if this doesn't workout.
Why would we HAVE TOO be enemies, just because we are not a match?"
KEEP SMILING... She will like that you are Confident...
AND RIGHT... you don't have to be enemies.
Besides… Getting to know people is how FRIENDS ARE MADE.
DATING is a Great way to get to know someone.
- ideaquestLv 72 years ago
Tell her you've got a 1-for-1 meal voucher for lunch and if she would like to join you for it. (It could also be 1-for-1 movies, whatever, ...)
- 2 years ago
Well, you could just approach the situation directly. There is no specific way to ask. Just go with the flow or how you feel in the moment.