how we find success in our life?

We must seek within.  There we shall find all the tools we will need for our own individual purposeful journey.  Go to your destiny!  :D

Long ago I learned that if you would make a man happy, do not add to his possessions but subtract from his desires.   

Success is overrated! To make success your goal in life is to condemn yourself to a life of frustration and disappointment because you are depending upon the world's appraisal of the value of your life or accomplishments. The number of men and women who have been deemed failures by the world and who have become as close to immortal as anyone can get in this loony bin we live in is innumerable. Christ is a prime example. His own people crucified Him. What a failure! Then, of course, there's people like Van Gogh who never sold a painting and one of them recently sold for 85.5  million dollars.

 If you wish to be happy, do not live your life seeking success either as you or the world defines it. Seek to understand your place in the world and how you can help make it a little better. I have known many people who were poor and who never considered success as a goal in their life. They were as close to saints as anyone I have ever known. They all possessed one thing that many successful people do not. They were happy!

In philosophy you have to go deeper, like why do you want to be successful, and what is it? Societal recognition? Attention? Because attention , being liked and being popular ensures our survival?

First: set a goal.

Second: accomplish the goal.

If we give importance to all the activities of our daily life, then we are successful in life.

Lower your expectations.

Two opposite ways..... get whatever you want

OR, ALTERNATIVELY,

enjoy whatever you have without thinking of what you don't.

Old saying:  "The best marksman in the world cannot hit a target if blindfolded."

What that means is that talent, skills, training and even passion are pretty much just possessions that you bring along with you in life.  But they are all ultimately meaningless in getting you to your destination if you yourself have no idea where you want to go.

The journey to success begins with a decision made solely by you, solely based upon the values inside of you, as to what "success" actually is.

Through passion, persistence and adapting. Those who fail to succeed generally lack at least one of these virtues.

Assuming "success" is primarily materially based, these four behaviors assure success for well over 90% of the individuals who follow them, in thriving economies such as the United States:

1.  Complete high school;

2.  Obey the laws i.e., do not commit criminal activity;

3.  Wait to marry until you and your spouse are financially mature, i.e., are able to hold a house;

4.  Have as many children as you desire and are able to provide for.

Additionally, these help:

1.  Vocational training programs such as found at https://www.rwm.org/ or/and a college B.A. with matriculation into a college in which you are academicaly in the upper half of your major's peers (students who do so learn more than in majors in which they are in the lower half of peers; there is likewise a general correlation between major ability ranking and one's general academic talent ranking at the whole undergraduate institution.  Also, smaller colleges often promote more learning, e.g. one may be more likely able to work on projects in one's dept., than at large state universities.  And, given the general nation-wide distribution of similar curricular materials for the majority of undergraduate institutions' courses, it is often more financially wise to attend a local 2-year college while living at parents' home, and then transfer to a 4-year B.A. or B.S. awarding institution.  It is worth noting that one's GRE, LSAT, etc. scores, and undergraduate gpa, are more indicative of further academic admission and training, and real world achievement, than the level of undergraduate institution one has attended.

As for further success in life, Maslow's work is generally a good guide:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_o...

Regarding the teen and 20s years, awful baggage may be  unnecessarily taken on by abuse of alcohol, drug usage, **** and sexual libertinism.  Sadly, these are promoted or condoned by the culture at high schools and colleges, where even some of the "adults" are libertines and profligates.

Shaunti Feldhahn's "For Couples Only,"

Sir John Hawkins' "101 Things All Young Adults Should Know,"

"The Quarter-Life Breakthrough,"

"Worthless:  The Young Person's Indispensable Guide to Choosing the Right Majjor,"

Mark Prophet's "Understanding Yourself," and

similar books are worthwhile reading, learning by, and applying.

And there's a loving relationship with your inner child--your soul--and God.  C. S. Lewis' "The Great Divorce" and "Mere Christianity" are examples of helpful, insightful teaching.