types of parenting styles?

stern and strict

relaxed and friendship

The role of parents is to sustain their children, equip their children the best that they can, with skills and knowledge, including the right way to conduct oneself, instilling the truth in them, and not lies.  My parents were both dysfunctional people as they were both raised in dysfunctional households. My dad was abused and he followed in his dad's footsteps, becoming a man of wrath. My mom was a latch-key kid who was sexually abused, and she turned out weird. The fact that I had any good raising at all, I know must be due to having God in my life from early on. I really don't know what kind of person I would have been without Him, and I don't really desire to know either. Given my miserable situation when I was young, and my lack of desire to cling on to insanity, I most likely would have committed suicide, I think. The best thing that ever happened to me, was the introduction of God into my life. Though God seemed to be a phase for my hedonist parents.... He's been the best thing in my life, better than all the things that they have chased after, thinking that in those things they will find sufficiency - and yet are never satisfied and always disappointed.

I took a child development class when I was younger, and I remember them speaking about authoritarian style, permissive...etc... but perhaps these are some of the negative styles. That class was years ago. I think people tend to get unbalanced, going too far one direction or the other -- missing the target of what is right and just. Permissive parents, neglectful parents, authoritarian parents can all be harmful. Parents should not raise their children to be unquestioning, but give them their children explanations for why they choose to do a certain action, or create a certain rule. Parents should not allow their children to do whatever, but should give their children guidance. Another word for spoil is to ruin. While it is not ruinous to be generous to your kids, if parents only give material things and instill nothing good in their children's souls, having no regard to giving them correction, then children will grow up valuing the material things (even above righteousness and truth) -- and then they end up in lack, though they may perceive themselves as not being in lack simply based on the possession of materialistic things. If someone becomes an adult having no skills or knowledge how to behave in the world, no independent living skills ...etc... then the parents have done the person a disservice. A bird has to be able to fly, if the bird does not the bird will die. If a bird can never move beyond the nest, the bird doesn't have much of a chance in life. Some parents do not wish to be accountable or see themselves as those that must be held responsible, but they have the most important job/role when it comes to jobs, even the overseeing of a human soul.

There are millions and since no one has cornered the market on the ideal parenting style, no one can credibly state yours is wrong or right.  And anyone who tries is just making a fool of themselves.

Morals may not stick but skills will at least empower them to survive. Just be a parent and try your best and don't drag them into your drama.