Your friend married young,believing she would have kids.But circumstances changed. How would you support her?

-Your friend married her now ex-husband when she was just 20.Both of them initially agreed to have children shortly after they married.

-However,her husband kept making excuses to force her to delay having a baby.At the time,she believed he would change his mind in a matter of time.So she stayed with him for 13 years.

-Finally,when she had enough of waiting to have a baby,she felt betrayed by her husband and wanted nothing to do with him.She couldn't find another partner who would agree to have kids with her.

-She was very maternal and knew that she was passionate about working with very young children.This led her to volunteer in a daycare and to take a diploma in early childhood care.

-In addition to her main job as a school administrator,she had helped with caring for her friends' very young children.

-She loves caring for babies. People have noticed this and asked her why she didn't have kids.She answered that she would have loved to become a mom and would have made an exceptional mom,if her now ex-husband had been open to her having children.

-She feels that although she didn't get to become a mom,she feels happy that she is making a difference to other people's kids.

-The life she has now is different from the life she envisioned for herself back when she was in her childhood,teenage years,20's and early 30's.It took a long time for her to come to terms with not having children.She had previously suffered depression and went for counselling as a result of this issue.