Is it actually better if you're not born at all?

No, because if you did not exist, there would be no 'you' for it to be better for. And it would be worse for other people who actually did exist, because they would be deprived of the good that you bring by your existence.

From a strictly antinatalist point of view, as David Benatar says, The absence of pleasure is not bad because if you had never existed you would have suffer no difference from the poistive or good things in your life which I assume would make many religious people angry because they believe that we are here for a purpose to serve God, to love others, to create more sentimental beings through marriage. I know AntiNatalism can be paradoxidal and counterintuitive to our biological/psychological mind processes because we can't contemplate the issues of our lives or reality unless we are pleasant in reality but this doesn't take away from the argument of AntiNatalism that you are creating a sentimental person into existence without their permission even though you can't ask them and not care about the whole world of negative things and merciless suffering that could happen to a person in one lifetime. The presence of pain is not necessarily bad unless there is someone out there for whom that absence is a deprivation. Like a mom who works 2-3 jobs to make ends meet and is tired and stressed but has a purpose behind it because she has to feed two children. 

You always have the choice.

No, that isn't better. 

"Passing on" is the ascent the soul experiences post-passing, and nightly.  A simple sincere prayer to God each evening as you prepare to sleep helps your soul to rise and be protected.

"The Great Divorce" by C. S. Lewis depicts what happens; a more advanced knowledge is given in "The Masters and Their Retreats," and useful progress is available at https://www.mothermeera.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_o...

is helpful for daily life as is "For Couples Only."  Be encouraged, be of good cheer.

It's probably better if you weren't born, but I happen to enjoy life, hardships and responsibility included. There are two types of people - survivors and victims. I know which type you are. You have my pity.

Well, at least if you were never born at-all you would not have to face the certain death you are certain to face.

Probably, pretty much. Running under the assumption that everyone will some time die, it's pretty bad. Dreaming of a world where nothing dies or hurts.

u dont have a choice u r born , its chemical ie serotonin levels , its psychological ie gratitude levels vs our never satisfied instincts, re how good or bad life is, alot of it is in your head, in the "real external world" its a % of good and bad maybe 60 good 40 bad depends for your specific life but all face brutal harsh things in life, but also good things 

Yes I think so. I really do.