3 year old son's difficult behaviour?

When it comes to small children, remember the next 3 things when tantrum begins:

- sleep.

How much sleep your child gets, sleep schedule ideally should be like sun and moon, not in reverse. 

- food/nutrition 

Heatly fats, minimum sugar, lots of veggies... you know the drill

- nature 

Small walk to take the trash out is not enough! He is not a dog on a leash to walk around the apartment complex!

Children need to play, run, exercise, sweat it out outside, get messy, play in the water, rain, and receive enough sunshine 🌞

Happy children radiate warmth and love. 

They recharge outdoors, not in front of TVs and tablets.

Yeah, that sounds like a three year-old. But talk to your pediatrician if you for some reason think this is beyond the typical "terrible twos" - which I'm here to tell you lasts until about four and a half in some kids. 

Have your son evaluated for possible ADHD & related conditions. Some kids can't handle normal stimulation. Bright lights, loud noises, new toys, excessive time with other people: any of these things can be way too stimulating for some young kids. Then the only way they can say, "Too much!" is to act out. There's a whole range of "neurodiverse" conditions that could be affecting him. A professional who has experience with this kind of problem would be your best bet.

We spent a *lot* of time using "traditional" discipline measures on one of our kids. Nothing, absolutely nothing, worked. It wasn't till the kid was grown and started doing their own research that they self-diagnosed as "ADD-PI" (Attention Deficit Disorder, Primarily Inattentive), and then all the pieces fell into place. Their behavior suddenly made sense. Don't make your kid wait that long. Find a specialist and see if there's something going on.

First, why was you son upset to begin with? Because the toy broke? Because of your upset reaction?  You "disciplined him"? What does that mean, exactly? Did you hit him?  Did you sit him in a corner? Did you talk to him? Then, you "chastised him"? What did you say and how did you say it?  I'm suspecting, already, that you are the one wiht the problem and that you really don't know how to handle him correctly, hence, his upset with you.  

The way to get a child to stop yelling is to ignore and not to react. And then praise him when he calms down. Whatever the reason is,he is out of control. 

You don"t give him something that he can easily break, in the first place. 

His "bad behavior" may be, no , probably IS a response to how he's being treated, unless he has a neurological disorder yet undiagnosed.

Misbehaving children are symptomatic of a dysfunctional household in which the parenting is at fault.

Since you suffered a recent loss (your grandfather), you may not be entirely on top of things or at your best for now. But three year olds are known to be a lot to handle in the first place, and this problem won't go away, will only grow larger, unless you learn to do something different and better, and that's the two of you,not just you. 

Consider parenting classes or family counseling . And just to be on the thorough and safe side, check with his pediatrician about whether his behavior has anything to do with his medical status.Though I doubt it. Read some parenting books, too. Do not let your own angry reactions be the guiding force for how you treat or discipline your child. 

Good luck,

That is just the beginning, when he gets to be in his teenage years he will make your life pure hell...

Has he been diagnosed with ADHD or something similar? When our daughter would eat red #40 in candy and snacks she would literally and figuratively turn into a monster. It turned out that she had a food allergy that was triggered when she ate certain foods. You may want to start with diet, less soda, and things that would jack him up, and set rewards and boundaries. 

Such as 1. If you are good every day this week you can get a coloring book. (For my daughter it was an allowance) the coloring books you can get at the dollar tree and store them someplace so if you need one in a pinch.

2. If there is bad behavior take away the thing you were going to give him.

Does his family (other grandmas and grandpa) have contact or interaction with him or someone else that is positive that can help by going with the two of you to the park or getting outside some per day?

Ah - the terrible twos! He is frustrated because he can't express himself in ways you can understand. Learn to listen - and with your intuition. But you are in charge, and he does need to listen to you too and do what you tell him!

Read the books!! Especially perhaps “How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

The sound of a smack on a bare butt is needed.

Sorry to say it is you who are not listening to the child and there is the start of the problem he has no idea what an adult is treating a child as an adult . He is a child and until he is treated like a child the problem will get worse.