I hate my mother in law holding my 6m baby ?

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When my mother in law holds my baby and talks to her, etc she acts like she is her mother. She’s really dominating. Every time she holds her I get a really horrible feeling of resentment, cringe and nearly disgust.

It’s an “uncontrollable” feeling that just comes no matter how hard I try. Now my husband wants her to babysit once a week while I’m at work... she’s HIS baby too so I can’t say no and try to put a wedge between him and his family.. he has a right to share his daughter with his family, etc as I like to do with my family too. But no one in my family babysits....

Is this just something I will get over with time and should I just be reasonable and let her babysit once a week? Maybe she’ll see how hard it is and  get over it quickly

Anonymous · Answer

I think seeing a therapist is a good idea, too. No one can tell you what to do with so little information.

my_alias_id · Answer

You should talk to a counselor.

Anonymous · Answer

I think she already knows how hard babies can be, seeing how she's a mother. I think it irks you because YOU are her mother and not your mother-in-law, and you want to be the only one the baby knows that way. That is how I think I would feel. Try to be glad that she's willing to help out. You want the baby to have a grandmother as well as a mother, don't you? I'll bet a few years down the road you will be happy to hand her over to her to babysit when you need her to.

Susie · Answer

Grandmothers always dote on their grandchildren. Unless she starts demanding that you raise your child a certain way, then maybe you should seek help for the “uncontrollable” feeling you get.

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I hate my mother in law holding my 6m baby ?

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