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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 14 hours ago

My bf wants me to step out of sexual comfort zone, what should I do?

Been with my bf for 6 yrs we’ve had ups and downs, but recently took a break for a few months. We didn’t break up just a break. We’re still in love and miss eachother.  My boyfriend is also very well endowed & has a much higher sex drive than me always have an more experience, so recently during our break he told me that it’s not a problem now but it can be a problem in the future that the lack of effort I put towards our sex life can become a problem. I’m honestly someone who can live without having much sex, but when I met him he did warn me about his sex drive and I thought I can maintain it but now I feel kinda bc it’s more of a bigger deal to him than it is to me. While I was away he wanted me to send a few photos, or something he can look at Bc he doesn’t like watching porn, says he prefers to see me Bc he never gets a chance too so I sent him some photos, and little 30 sec. video. He said it helped and he likes that I’m being a little more open. But it’s not in my comfort zone to do things like that. Also with sex he wants to try other positions but by him being big, it hurts and he sometimes gets frustrated. So I just wanna know should I be open more and just letting it go? Taking the pain. And discomfort or should I stick to what I’m comfortable with. Bc I don’t want to lose him. I feel he wants me to be someone I’m now, I’m not used to being a freaky or spontaneous woman and think that’s what he wants. But idk what I do. Bc we are still in love. & he wants to marry

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  • T J
    Lv 7
    8 hours ago

    Id stay in my comfort zone and make it very clear to him, what he wants caused you pain. If he cannot deal with that, you need a new guy in your life. Tell your horse to go find a elephant.

  • 10 hours ago

    It's a selfish pig who has expectations about your sex life and who complains about it.  He sounds like a total moron. Why are you with him at all?  

  • Anonymous
    14 hours ago

    You have to try to let go only if you trust him 100%.

    Otherwise it's probably not going to make a difference.

    And yeah, different sex drive can become a big problem later.

  • 14 hours ago

    Give him the oral sex one more time 

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