spydermomma

Why does it seem practically everyone on the internet--even intelligent people that spell everything else correctly and use correct grammar--use the word "loose" and "loosing" instead of "lose" and "losing"?

Usually on the internet and texting things get shorter, not longer, so why in this case do so many use the longer word?

Do you think they know there are two different words?

Or maybe I'm just slow. But, I have often wanted to answer a question here in the adoption section, but gone to bed instead (it being 2am) and next time I look it is closed. And mostly I've just shrugged.

But the last 2 days I have found an open question and composed my reply, and then when I went to preview it, the question was already closed. Yesterday it was the question about particular adoption books not being in libraries. Because i'm a librarian my answer was probably even longer and more rambling than usual, and I was playing with my daughter also, so it did take awhile and I just emailed it to the asker.

Tonight it was the one about adoptive parents and regret over not remaining childfree. And darn it, I thought I had a pretty interesting answer. And it only took something like 30 minutes to write it. Darn!

So do people close their questions because they got the answers they want? Because they are going off the front page? Because they are going to bed? Just curious.

I am heartsick over the story of the 7 year old girl, adopted in Korea by Dutch diplomats at 4 months old, who they turned over to Hong Kong fostering. Apparently the claim is that she had culture shock and did not want to eat Dutch food. Maybe she's just a picky eater! They never naturalized her, so she is not a Dutch citizen and does not have Hong Kong residency, but doesn't speak Korean.

http://www.radionetherlands.nl/currentaffairs/0712...

And from a group of Korean adult adoptees:

http://goal.or.kr/upload/bbs/e613/495411974421940....

What do you all think about this? I know that there are some times when a child is better off without a family that is horrible for them--adoptive or not--and this might be one of them for this child. But, oh, my heart just goes out to her.

How we can stop things like this from happening? There just has to be some sort of better screening or mandatory counseling or something that would keep people like this from adopting.

At my daughter's preschool today, there was a box of pumpkins outside with the following sign:

Free Pumpkin Adoption. Spend the Holiday with your pump"kin"

Do you think that is offensive to adoptees (or anyone else)? Or do you just think it is funny?

Just in case anyone might think otherwise, this is a serious question (well, semi-serious), certainly not trying to bait anyone (I really don't see how it would be viewed that way, but just in case). I do have opinions (those who know me know I pretty much always do), but I don't want to prejudice your responses.