Adam

Hey! I'm switch, which means that I can be submissive or dominant in any given sexual encounter. My beautiful girlfriend is very much submissive which means that I've had to take up the dominant role whenever we have sex. Once in a while I get a craving for change and yearn to be submissive for a while. I don't want to leave the confines of the relationship or invite anyone inside (not just yet anyway). My girlfriend isn't as sexually confident as me either, and when I ask her to be dominant over me for twenty minutes or so she doesn't quite know how to proceed, which is understandable. I've tried to describe to her how I'd like her to be and what I'd like her to do, but it's hard for me to see the problem in something that I find so natural to do! I feel like I'm a seven year old trying to teach an octogenarian how to do the crab! Any advice from you wonderfully twisted folks out there? Besides this one problem our relationship is wonderful and I love her and all her wonderful twisted ways!

seriously! i decide to write a story and **** loads of distractions fall into my lap! "i'll come over later if i'm not busy!" epic deadline! wtf? am i living in the moment too much? it doesn't feel like it! and can we have a heap of answeres without fate? haiku answer gets ten points! well, the best one anyway!

ok, my gf's best friend is daniel, lives half a country away. she'd been planning to go see him. fine. friends. not a prob. also, he's gay, so i was less worried. now! he's decided he might not be gay. my gf when confronted said that he started acting different and sexting. she sexted back thinking nothing much of it, and only made a big thing about it after i found out. the messages that i saw appeared to have been going on for a while, with some of her responses deleted. she refered to him as master and he refered to her as slave. this is something that we had touched on in our relationship, (roles, not names) but had not continued. after confronting her she seemed to want to just sweep the matter unred the carpet whereas i wanted to talk about how it had made me feel. i drew a metaphorical line under the situation and said that it was only sexting, that nothing had happened, that if she wanted to talk to guys via messages like that then she could, but i would like to know so as i'm aware. i told her that i had sexted previously in a previous relationship but felt i was over it.

she is rather inexperienced in relationships and sex, as i am her first partner in both, wheras i have had numerous relationships and partners. i am worried that there are things she would like to try with other people but she is scared of teling me. i have tried to be supportive and as reassuring as i can be, but am worried that the sexting is a precursor to 'pandoras box' if you will.

any advice? pointers? mantras? potions? greatly recieved!

In afew relationships i've been in, mind games have heralded the end of communication and the relationship. Now that i'm older and wiser (30) shouldn't they be a thing of the past? I love the woman i'm with and don't want to hurt her in the same way that i've been hurt with mindgames in the past. Any suggestions? Advice?

Like, when I read a book? have a cuddle? Do I need to be talking all the time? Am I saying the wrong things when I DO talk! I've tried telling her that i'm just quiet sometimes but she still asks me 'what's wrong' whenever I have a quiet half hour! Do other girls do this? Does it annoy other guys?