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We met through online dating. Didn't talk a whole lot on there but agreed to go out.

I think she was a little reserved, but we had lots of laughs and decent conversation. There were some lulls in conversation though.

I initiated some physical flirting but she seemed receptive to it. Sometimes she said things that indicated us doing things in the future. Like "I'll have to show you this" or "We'll have to do this". And she wants to send me some shows to watch.

I walked her to her car and she gave me a ride to my car. We had a short kiss or two there, then a couple when I got out to my car. Nothing super passionate which worried me I guess. Text conversation that night:

Her: "Home to my tundra" (she had joked that her house will be freezing when she gets home)

Me: (Sent picture of my thermostat) Florida climate here. Please don't freeze to death!

Her: Haha its not too bad... warming up already

Me: That's good then. You'll have to text me your recommendations for Netflix shows. Also let me know when you're a converted (my favorite team we joked about) fan.

Her: Haha I'll text you some when I think of them anddd I will never be a (team) fan

Me: You should reconsider! Hahaha alright heading to bed, have a good night!

Her: Thanks, you too! Glad we hung out tonight.

Me: Yeah same had a good time

Is she definitely interested? Or did the date not go as well as I thought? Should I text her today or wait until tomorrow? And what would I even text?

So we've been seeing a lot of each other and have dated before (a year ago). I kind of felt her pulling away, but it's a long story and I won't go into it. I haven't done anything weird or anything like that. But just trying to mirror her interest. She's looking for a job and has been really stressed about that.

So Wednesday I texted:

"Great! Always worth it to get extra interviews. Let's grab drinks and find something fun to do Saturday night! Are you free?"

She didn't get back to me until Friday morning, and she texted:

"Happy Friday! Sorry I've been busy and never got back to you. Yes my second interview went well too. I'm going to NYC over the weekend to use my tickets (they'll expire soon) in case I work soon! I'll be back Sunday afternoon. I'm around next week so far we can do something then if you want to. I hope your week has been good!"

Now I was a little annoyed it took two days to text back, and she seemed nonchalant about it. I was busy at work so i texted her back way later, around 630 pm when I left work:

"Glad interviews went well, hopefully you get the offer! Had an exhausting week ha. Yeah you can let me know when you're free again. NYC sounds fun have a great time!!"

Haven't heard from her since. I was trying to give her space since we had been hanging out a lot. I don't know if I came off passive aggressive or something? It’s Monday afternoon and haven’t heard anything. Maybe she’s just not into me...

So we've been seeing a lot of each other and have dated before (a year ago). I kind of felt her pulling away, but it's a long story and I won't go into it. I haven't done anything weird or anything like that. But just trying to mirror her interest. She's looking for a job and has been really stressed about that.

So Wednesday I texted:

"Great! Always worth it to get extra interviews. Let's grab drinks and find something fun to do Saturday night! Are you free?"

She didn't get back to me until Friday morning, and she texted:

"Happy Friday! Sorry I've been busy and never got back to you. Yes my second interview went well too. I'm going to NYC over the weekend to use my tickets (they'll expire soon) in case I work soon! I'll be back Sunday afternoon. I'm around next week so far we can do something then if you want to. I hope your week has been good!"

Now I was a little annoyed it took two days to text back, and she seemed nonchalant about it. I was busy at work so i texted her back way later, around 630 pm when I left work:

"Glad interviews went well, hopefully you get the offer! Had an exhausting week ha. Yeah you can let me know when you're free again. NYC sounds fun have a great time!!"

Haven't heard from her since. I was trying to give her space since we had been hanging out a lot. I don't know if I came off passive aggressive or something?

I used to date this girl for about 2 months last year. It didn't work out because of her job. We talked here and there after. I dated someone else.

She texted me here and there,asking if I was dating anyone because she realizes how clouded her judgment was and how her job messed up lots of things in her life.

About 3 weeks ago we went out and had an AMAZING time. Had drinks, talked for hours, she seemed very interested. We made out,hung out a few days later,spent 10 hours together,had sex. It was VERY intimate and we talked a lot,really connected. Talked about future plans.

We went to a haunted house Wed. and had so much fun! Had drinks, I joked that if she paid rent she could stay at my house, and I teased that i'd have to think about it because that's a lot of time to spend with her (she loved it), she said here are all the pros of that (sleeping together, cooking, etc). We joked that it would be hot to work out together. I had to work the next day so I took her home and we cuddled, no sex, for a little but I had to drive home (it was 1 am).Felt very intimate.We told each other how much we liked spending time together.

Got a text next day saying how much fun she had. Texted her to hang out saturday and she didn't get back to me late friday, saying she'd let me know. Saturday she just wanted to stay in for the day but said maybe tomorrow.

Overthinking it?Past couple days there's a dropoff in communication. Maybe we are hanging out too much?Did I do something wrong here?

I went to a concert with two of my girl friends, one of whom I've had a crush on for like 4-5 years. We have a ton in common but the timing was never right and I haven't really made a move.

I don't know if she knows I'm romantically interested, I think she HAS to since her friends both know I had a thing for her.

*These past few days were a lot of fun. We took two good pictures together. There were a bunch of things where we were talking about cool things going on and she said "yeah we should do that that'd be fun!" Not over the top enthusiastic but definitely was interested in doing more (going to my cousin's concert, comedy club, etc). She even mentioned visiting my house. I told her about my two week trip to Europe and she thought it was so cool! I said "you should come with me" and she seemed pretty interested in going! It'll be next June, but we talked about it and she said to give her my itinerary and she would really consider it.

I don't know if she's ever showed this much interest in hanging out one on one before... It has to be romantic interest right?

She doesn't know I'm single and I didn't bring it up, so maybe that's why she wasn't super over-the-top ecstatic to hang out. It was more "yeah that'd be fun!" I was annoyed because one of her friends said "I could give you (name) number he is moving to the city" and she wasn't opposed to the idea, so wasn't sure if she just didn't like me.

So my girlfriend (ex now) and I just broke up about a week ago.

I went to a concert with two of my girl friends, one of whom I've had a crush on for like 4-5 years. We have a ton in common but the timing was never right and I haven't really made a move.

I don't know if she knows I'm romantically interested, I think she HAS to since her friends both know I had a thing for her.

*These past few days were a lot of fun. We took two good pictures together. There were a bunch of things where we were talking about cool things going on and she said "yeah we should do that that'd be fun!" Not over the top enthusiastic but definitely was interested in doing more (going to my cousin's concert, comedy club, etc). She even mentioned visiting my house. I told her about my two week trip to Europe and she thought it was so cool! I said "you should come with me" and she seemed pretty interested in going! It'll be next June, but we talked about it and she said to give her my itinerary and she would really consider it.

I don't know if she's ever showed this much interest in hanging out one on one before... It has to be romantic interest right?

She doesn't know I'm single and I didn't bring it up, so maybe that's why she wasn't super over-the-top ecstatic to hang out. It was more "yeah that'd be fun!" I was annoyed because one of her friends said "I could give you (name) number he is moving to the city" and she wasn't opposed to the idea, so wasn't sure if she just didn't like me.

So my girlfriend (ex now) and I just broke up about a week ago.

I went to a concert with two of my girl friends, one of whom I've had a crush on for like 4-5 years. We have a ton in common but the timing was never right and I haven't really made a move.

I don't know if she knows I'm romantically interested, I think she HAS to since her friends both know I had a thing for her.

*These past few days were a lot of fun. We took two good pictures together. There were a bunch of things where we were talking about cool things going on and she said "yeah we should do that that'd be fun!" Not over the top enthusiastic but definitely was interested in doing more (going to my cousin's concert, comedy club, etc). She even mentioned visiting my house. I told her about my two week trip to Europe and she thought it was so cool! I said "you should come with me" and she seemed pretty interested in going! It'll be next June, but we talked about it and she said to give her my itinerary and she would really consider it.

I don't know if she's ever showed this much interest in hanging out one on one before... It has to be romantic interest right?

She doesn't know I'm single and I didn't bring it up, so maybe that's why she wasn't super over-the-top ecstatic to hang out. It was more "yeah that'd be fun!" I was annoyed because one of her friends said "I could give you (name) number he is moving to the city" and she wasn't opposed to the idea, so wasn't sure if she just didn't like me.

So my girlfriend (ex now) and I just broke up about a week ago.

I went to a concert with two of my girl friends, one of whom I've had a crush on for like 4-5 years. We have a ton in common but the timing was never right and I haven't really made a move.

I don't know if she knows I'm romantically interested, I think she HAS to since her friends both know I had a thing for her.

*These past few days were a lot of fun. We took two good pictures together. There were a bunch of things where we were talking about cool things going on and she said "yeah we should do that that'd be fun!" Not over the top enthusiastic but definitely was interested in doing more (going to my cousin's concert, comedy club, etc). She even mentioned visiting my house. I told her about my two week trip to Europe and she thought it was so cool! I said "you should come with me" and she seemed pretty interested in going! It'll be next June, but we talked about it and she said to give her my itinerary and she would really consider it.

I don't know if she's ever showed this much interest in hanging out one on one before... It has to be romantic interest right?

She doesn't know I'm single and I didn't bring it up, so maybe that's why she wasn't super over-the-top ecstatic to hang out. It was more "yeah that'd be fun!" I was annoyed because one of her friends said "I could give you (name) number he is moving to the city" and she wasn't opposed to the idea, so wasn't sure if she just didn't like me.

So my girlfriend (ex now) and I just broke up about a week ago.

I went to a concert with two of my girl friends, one of whom I've had a crush on for like 4-5 years. We have a ton in common but the timing was never right and I haven't really made a move.

I don't know if she knows I'm romantically interested, I think she HAS to since her friends both know I had a thing for her.

*These past few days were a lot of fun. We took two good pictures together. There were a bunch of things where we were talking about cool things going on and she said "yeah we should do that that'd be fun!" Not over the top enthusiastic but definitely was interested in doing more (going to my cousin's concert, comedy club, etc). She even mentioned visiting my house. I told her about my two week trip to Europe and she thought it was so cool! I said "you should come with me" and she seemed pretty interested in going! It'll be next June, but we talked about it and she said to give her my itinerary and she would really consider it.

I don't know if she's ever showed this much interest in hanging out one on one before... It has to be romantic interest right?

She doesn't know I'm single and I didn't bring it up, so maybe that's why she wasn't super over-the-top ecstatic to hang out. It was more "yeah that'd be fun!" I was annoyed because one of her friends said "I could give you (name) number he is moving to the city" and she wasn't opposed to the idea, so wasn't sure if she just didn't like me.

Right now I have booked, in early April 2019 , 2 nights Zurich, 4 nights lugano, 5 nights wengen, and 4 nights lucerne. This will be my first time in Europe and am traveling by myself.

I originally wanted to go to Switzerland because of all of the beautiful pictures I saw of the Lauterbrunnen region. April was the only month that could work with my work schedule. Plus I didn't want to have to wait a long time to take the trip!

Originally I read that April can still be beautiful and I'd have a good time. Now as I'm reading more and more it seems like nothing will really be in bloom at that point. Has anyone had a good time in April? Should I instead plan for Late August/Early September? It would just be a bummer to have to make it a year away.

I'm not interested in skiing or anything like that, the most outdoorsy thing I will do is do some easy trails for the views. Everything is booked as refundable so I have some flexibility, but I really don't want to wait a whole year to go on a trip.

Thoughts?

I have about $200 right now, and will probably put in 100-200 per paycheck in my vacation fund. Is the VG money mkt settlement account good enough? Or should I pick a short term bond etf?

This girl I have known for about 6 years. She's best friends with my best friend's fiance. So she's in our friend circle in a way, but she's not a great friend of mine. Meaning it's not like we talk often at all. But she's in my friend's wedding and so am I. I've always really had a thing for her. She has been over-the-top excited for me since I bought a house. Like way more than usual. She even MAILED me a card and signed "Love, (her name)" and a gift card. My friend has said she has been dropping hints for a while and I've been missing them. Girls, would you send a card like that to a guy who wasn't a great friend, maybe you were romantically interested in him?

This girl I have known for about 6 years. She's best friends with my best friend's fiance. So she's in our friend circle in a way, but she's not a great friend of mine. Meaning it's not like we talk often at all. But she's in my friend's wedding and so am I. I've always really had a thing for her. She has been over-the-top excited for me since I bought a house. Like way more than usual. She even MAILED me a card and signed "Love, (her name)" and a gift card. My friend has said she has been dropping hints for a while and I've been missing them.

I just don't know... she's naturally a bubbly and friendly girl. Girls, would you send a card like that to a guy who wasn't a great friend, maybe you were romantically interested in him?

This girl I have known for about 6 years. She's best friends with my best friend's fiance. So she's in our friend circle in a way, but she's not a great friend of mine. Meaning it's not like we talk often at all. But she's in my friend's wedding and so am I. I've always really had a thing for her. She has been over-the-top excited for me since I bought a house. Like way more than usual. She even MAILED me a card and signed "Love, (her name)" and a gift card. My friend has said she has been dropping hints for a while and I've been missing them. Girls, would you send a card like that to a guy who wasn't a great friend, maybe you were romantically interested in him?

This girl I have known for about 6 years. She's best friends with my best friend's fiance. So she's in our friend circle in a way, but she's not a great friend of mine. Meaning it's not like we talk often at all. But she's in my friend's wedding and so am I. I've always really had a thing for her. She has been over-the-top excited for me since I bought a house. Like way more than usual. She even MAILED me a card and signed "Love, (her name)" and a gift card. My friend has said she has been dropping hints for a while and I've been missing them. Girls, would you send a card like that to a guy who wasn't a great friend, maybe you were romantically interested in him?

There’s this girl I dated for about 2 months and I eventually broke it off because she always said work was too much for her and it was so hard for us to hang out. I texted her recently (after 2 months NC) and we really reconnected. We texted paragraphs back and forth a lot. I went over to her house and slept over (no sex, just cuddling/kissing/talking). We went out again this past Friday and she seemed a little distant. Date was great but was backing off the physical closeness.

So I told her I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her. She felt the same, she liked me and loved hanging out but she “didnt want to hurt me”. Last time we dated I got upset because it was tough for her to hang out. I didn’t realize the actual stress that comes with her job. She likes to be by herself when she’s miserable, and I 100 percent believe this. She didn’t want to lead me on and guarantee she would be able to hang out if she’s feeling depressed.

So I said if that was truly the only thing holding her back I will do a better job of being more understanding. So after that the mood seemed to really change. She was warm again, kissed a lot, talked about hanging out again, and I said I missed her/glad I texted and we had this talk. She agreed and said I guess everything happens for a reason.

Girls, is she being sincere? She had a business trip this weekend and hadn't heard from her until I texted her yesterday. She had an easy out to say she just wanted to be friends but she didn't.

There’s this girl I dated for about 2 months and I eventually broke it off because she always said work was too much for her and it was so hard for us to hang out. I texted her recently (after 2 months NC) and we really reconnected. We texted paragraphs back and forth a lot. I went over to her house and slept over (no sex, just cuddling/kissing/talking). We went out again this past Friday and she seemed a little distant. Date was great but was backing off the physical closeness.

So I told her I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her. She felt the same, she liked me and loved hanging out but she “didnt want to hurt me”. Last time we dated I got upset because it was tough for her to hang out. I didn’t realize the actual stress that comes with her job. She likes to be by herself when she’s miserable, and I 100 percent believe this. She didn’t want to lead me on and guarantee she would be able to hang out if she’s feeling depressed.

So I said if that was truly the only thing holding her back I will do a better job of being more understanding. So after that the mood seemed to really change. She was warm again, kissed a lot, talked about hanging out again, and I said I missed her/glad I texted and we had this talk. She agreed and said I guess everything happens for a reason.

Girls, is she being sincere? She had a business trip this weekend and hadn't heard from her until I texted her yesterday. She had an easy out to say she just wanted to be friends but she didn't.

There’s this girl I dated for about 2 months and I eventually broke it off because she always said work was too much for her and it was so hard for us to hang out. I texted her recently (after 2 months NC) and we really reconnected. We texted paragraphs back and forth a lot. I went over to her house and slept over (no sex, just cuddling/kissing/talking). We went out again this past Friday and she seemed a little distant. Date was great but was backing off the physical closeness.

So I told her I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her. She felt the same, she liked me and loved hanging out but she “didnt want to hurt me”. Last time we dated I got upset because it was tough for her to hang out. I didn’t realize the actual stress that comes with her job. She likes to be by herself when she’s miserable, and I 100 percent believe this. She didn’t want to lead me on and guarantee she would be able to hang out if she’s feeling depressed.

So I said if that was truly the only thing holding her back I will do a better job of being more understanding. So after that the mood seemed to really change. She was warm again, kissed a lot, talked about hanging out again, and I said I missed her/glad I texted and we had this talk. She agreed and said I guess everything happens for a reason.

Girls, is she being sincere? She had a business trip this weekend and hadn't heard from her until I texted her yesterday. She had an easy out to say she just wanted to be friends but she didn't.

LDR girl that I've been exclusive with for about 5 months. I haven't met her in person yet. We both always say we love each other and she even talks of a future with us. So I planned to drive 7 hours to her and we were all so freaking excited. The night before we were talking and she asked if I still thought this was a good idea.

Apparently she's terrified that when I visit things will go wrong. Like she'll love me but I won't feel the same anymore. That I'm her best friend as well as her lover and what if I ended up hating her.

She said she wasn't ready and she felt really bad about it. She wasn't worried about meeting me, and she really wanted me there, but couldn't get over that she was scared.

I didn't beg her to change her mind and just kept saying okay. This is the second time I planned to visit her and it didn't work out. I'm just frustrated because I keep taking days off work and she's "not ready yet" I call BS but I dunno.

THEN, I text her and SHE'S short with me. I'm supposed to be mad at HER. Anyway I ask what's up and she said it again that it was purely because she freaks herself out and she thinks it'll get messed up.

Since she cancelled she hasn't been texting the same. Also I saw a snapchat story of (who she says) is her gay friend who is like a brother to her. It's a funny pic of him on his phone in the shower.

She even said she was constantly thinking about me.

1. Should I believe her?

2. Why isn't she texting me like she used to?

LDR girl that I've been exclusive with for about 5 months. I haven't met her in person yet. We both always say we love each other and she even talks of a future with us. So I planned to drive 7 hours to her and we were all so freaking excited. The night before we were talking and she asked if I still thought this was a good idea.

Apparently she's terrified that when I visit things will go wrong. Like she'll love me but I won't feel the same anymore. That I'm her best friend as well as her lover and what if I ended up hating her.

She said she wasn't ready and she felt really bad about it. She wasn't worried about meeting me, and she really wanted me there, but couldn't get over that she was scared.

I didn't beg her to change her mind and just kept saying okay. This is the second time I planned to visit her and it didn't work out. I'm just frustrated because I keep taking days off work and she's "not ready yet" I call BS but I dunno.

THEN, I text her and SHE'S short with me. I'm supposed to be mad at HER. Anyway I ask what's up and she said it again that it was purely because she freaks herself out and she thinks it'll get messed up.

***Since she cancelled she hasn't been texting the same. Also I saw a snapchat story of (who she says) is her gay friend who is like a brother to her. It's a funny pic of him on his phone in the shower.

She even said she was constantly thinking about me.

1. I guess I have no choice but to believe her? Should I let her go??