The Loving Addict

I learned how to deal with my verbally abusive boss relatively well over the years. While the abuse never stopped, I was able to cope and move on in life.

After 9.5 years of this treatment I have found a new position in a different company that truly values its employees. Ithe literally brings tears to my eyes after any exchange with my new boss because I forgot what it felt like to be treated nicely and feel valued by my boss.

I am currently training my replacement. She is a sweet girl, fast learner and I think she can perform the work. However, she has no idea what she s getting herself inton where my boss is concerned. She got a little taste of it Friday, but I doubt it is enough to make her run away from the job. I have this strong sense of justice and compassion telling me I should warn her about my boss. However, I want to leave on good terms too.

My family says I should not make it my problem. For me, that s easier said than done.

Should I just leave this alone and leave the new girl to her fate? Or should I tell her what life is like working with him so she can make an informed decision?

Nothing spectacular happened to my front tooth. I did notice when I shine a light on my tooth there is a hairline fracture that is not very visible and you cannot feel it. I have no pain in my teeth.

I was chewing gum and suddenly I felt tiny pieces of my tooth in the gum!! I am terrified at what this could mean for my tooth!

I go to the dentist every 6 months for my entire life and no one has mentioned this. The crumbling occurred on the top rear portion of my front-most bottom tooth.

I already emailed the dentist but I'm having high anxiety already about what this means! Please help me understand :(

I'll try to make this short. We have 4 cats: Goose (M), Moose (M), Feralas (M), Shiva (F) and all are fixed. The problem cat is Moose. We adopted him 5 years ago from a cat rescue, and the more he is with us, the more we realize he might not be happy here.

A short profile of him: He's OCD - he compulsively licks the fur off his body. No it's not a medical condition or allergies. He's slightly retarded - we acquired him when he was about 1.5 years old. At that time he had gashes that had been patched up, almost no fur, and he wobbled slightly when he walked. He had been in a bad cat fight before the rescuers found him. We don't know if he was born retarded or if something happened to him before we got him. Either way, he's "special." He gets along splendid with Goose, but really never liked the other 2 cats. He also has extreme separation anxiety and does not do well with any change whatsoever.

Ok so the problem is, he's started to pee in places besides his litter box. We have tried everything possible: make sure he wasn't sick (vet), pheromone diffuser to calm him, "no spray" spray, covering the areas where he's peeing, making sure the litter box is always clean. But his peeing has to do with his anxiety when we are not there or when we are asleep.

Now he has started to pee on our expensive microfiber couch...and we can't stop him! We were gone over the weekend for less than 48 hours, and we come home and the couch has been peed on at LEAST 3x. We know it's him because we had a motion censor web cam set up.

So this is really the last straw for me...I cannot handle the peeing on furniture and I don't want to crate him. Does anyone have any suggestions that I haven't listed to make him stop peeing outside the litter box? If not, do you think it's best we give him back to the adoption agency so he can find a home with only 1 or 0 other pets and a little old lady who never leaves her house? :( I love him and want what's best, but I can't deal with the peeing much longer especially since it's getting worse.

We have had this male dumbo rat for about a month. Up until 3 days ago, he has been sweet and adventurous and lovable. Suddenly we heard crashing in his cage and thought maybe he was having a seizure. Went out to look and he looked a little dazed. I researched what seizures are like in rats and after 2 more times of him flipping out in his cage, I don't think what we saw was a seizure.

Last night I heard him flip out 4x. I'm a sound sleeper and he's in another room, so it's a very loud sound of him banging on the bar walls and seeming to crash onto different walls. This morning his nose was so swollen from him hitting himself that he was wheezing and there is blood on his bars.

It's like he no longer feels safe in his cage for some reason. We bought him new toys and chews to see if he was just bored. But it seems like all he wants in life is to be out of his cage and running around. He's very adventurous and curious, but it was never like this before. He'd want to hang out around us and he'd stick to his cage. Now suddenly he wants out all the time and doesn't really want to be near us.

We've done nothing but spoil him and nothing changed from the day he was normal to the day he went crazy. I really don't know what to do because it's like Jekyll and Hyde. He isn't trying to bite or anything when we pick him up, but he obviously doesn't want to be around us. He wants to run around and now he's starting to try to find trouble.

He'd used to run around and we'd keep an eye on him no problem. Now he's darting around to where we lose sight of him and twice yesterday we lost track of him for a few minutes. So it's like he just wants to hide, but from what, I have no idea :(

Does anyone have any advice how we can get him to calm down? We take him out at least once every day for about a half hour with some free time and some cuddle time. He gets fresh vegetable treats each night and he's anything but neglected. We have another male rat but they don't get along, so buying him a companion rat isn't a good option.

Thanks in advance for anyone's help.... :(

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Need some suggestions. He is active, curious, extremely sweet, and he likes to get up on his hind legs and look behind him with his head bending over his back lol.

I am 25, married, and living on my own with my husband.

My parents have been having horrible problems in their relationship. It has been so awkward during the holidays see my dad treat her badly and my mom shut down. My mom isn't perfect, but I have felt a lot of anger towards my dad for acting like a 3 year old not getting his way.

Long story short, my mom and dad are heading back here where I live after a road trip. I've already seen both of them already during Christmas. The initial plan was for my mom to drop my dad off at the airport and she and I would have lunch and spend today and tomorrow together. She texts me at 9:00 this morning and says they are making good time, would I want to go with them to take my dad to the airport?

I initially used the excuse that my husband was sick and came home from work and that I wanted to be with him until he woke up in case he needed me. That was part of the reason, but most of the reason was that I didn't want another awkward 2 hours with my parents together. I was pissed at my dad for throwing a hissy fit at a restaurant the day after Christmas, throwing a tray down and giving my mom a horrible look when she was just trying to help.

I don't want to see him right now, and I especially don't want to see them together because they don't love each other. I'm hoping they get a divorce, but until then, or until something works out, I'm not sure how I should react when they say they want to see me.

Should I have sucked it up and gone? Part of me says yes because my dad still loves me. But most of me says no because he's a two-faced asshole and I don't want to be around him.

I'm 24, 5'7" and 133 lbs. Like many people, I have severe self confidence issues and I am never satisfied with my body. I am tired of the daily battle with myself, as it is starting to make me feel depressed again. Food is on my mind and what not to eat/what to eat is going through my head probably 70% of my day. I analyze everything I eat. Sometimes when I do let myself eat what I want, I feel horrible for a week until I lose weight. I am trying to lose weight the healthy way, by working out and eating better, but I don't eat very healthy all the time. The times that I have ANYTHING bad, like pizza, coke, chips even in small quantities, I analyze and criticize myself for it. I really don't know how to stop this self-hate. My husband is tired of hearing "I feel fat" and so am I. But I'm absolutely TERRIFIED of gaining weight.

I have set a weight goal for myself of 120-125lbs. I wrote a list down today of what is making me feel so depressed.

Panicking that I gained weight

I'm hungry and have cravings but am trying to force myself not to eat them

Feeling like a failure for eating desserts and cokes

I feel fatter, like everything is spilling out of my clothes

I feel guilty for not working out last week

Has anyone overcome their obsession with weight loss? I am forcing myself to eat because I know not eating is unhealthy. But at the same time I feel guilty about everything I eat -.- Any advice is appreciated...

I am looking for a bakery in the north Dallas area that can make a white butter cake with chocolate frosting. I've scoured the internet and can't find any websites...if you know of a bakery, please let me know! It's for my husband's birthday and it is his favorite type of cake!

I've had recurring UTI's with no specific cause. They trigger easily and I've been off and on several antibiotics. Today I tried some home remedies and I think I went overboard. Now I don't know what's wrong exactly...the bladder infection is gone, but I'm experiencing foaming at the mouth and slight dry mouth along with a hot feeling around the shoulders and arms especially. It's the opposite of how you feel if you have a fever. I am also slightly nauseous and dizzy.

Can anyone pinpoint which thing might be causing these side effects?

Ingredients for remedy:

1/2 tbp baking soda

1 tbp honey

2 tbs cinnamon

2 oz apple cider vinegar

500mg cranberry pills

1000mg vitamin C

Kyo-Dophilus probiotic 1.5 billion acidophilus

I'm pretty clueless regarding this. Mainly we want to be able to steam rice and vegetables at the same time. It's just the 2 of us so it doesn't have to be huge. But I'm not sure what brands and styles are good.

Thanks!

I have heard that you can tell the diet of a creature by the color that its eyes glow when a light is shined at them (specifically when they are in the dark).

Carnivore - eyes glow red

Herbivore - eyes glow green

Omnivore - eyes glow yellow

Is this true or is it an old wives tale?

I can't find any information to prove this theory one way or another...help!

My husband and I want to go somewhere special for our anniversary, but we were hoping to make it a late lunch/early dinner and honestly haven't tried many fancy places.

Does anyone have some suggestions for a good fancy restaurant (around $50 or less a plate) in the Dallas area that we could go to?

We were thinking a Japanese restaurant or a place that serves many different types of food.

As far as specs go, it doesn't have to be top of the line, but high quality. I'd like it to be a bit bigger than the standard widescreen size. I'm looking at spending $1-600 for the monitor.

When I used to open Word, it had a small menu down at the bottom that said Page number 1 of 2 or whatever. Now I have no way of telling what page number I'm on.

I tried turning on all menus but there wasn't an option to turn on this bar.

Any idea how to get it back?

I'm just curious how many people actually did experience the freshman 15.

I was 5'8" 118lbs all throught high school, then in college I began to gain weight slowly up to about 125. Two years ago, I got married and gained another 15lbs. Granted, playing video games all day and being a boredom eater didn't help :)

I am now age 22 and weigh 130 from changing eating habits and doing more exercise. I know you gain weight as you get older naturally, but it was nice to put on my wedding dress on and have it fit BETTER than it did when I was married.

What's your story? :D

I want to lose the last 5-6 lbs...it really comes to counting the calories and keeping track of my workouts.

I've looked at a few sites, but they don't have the detail I want to go into, or else they have a very small food database.

Has anyone found a very good website that offers a calorie/nutrition/exercise journal such as this?

My husband and I have been married for nearly two years. We both went into the relationship agreeing that we don't want children for various reasons. I am 22 and he is 24. I feel we are too young to have kids right now, but we are open to the fact that our feelings might change in 3-5 years so don't want to do anything permanent. To be honest, I'm scared of children and I'm scared of the negative impacts a child will have on our marriage. We are so happy just making each other happy, and neither one of us yearns for a child to be thrown in the mix.

I believe we would both be good parents. He's a wonderful patient man (more patient than me) and there is nothing I wouldn't do to make him happy. He makes me feel like the most important thing in his life and always makes me feel loved and cherished.

Does anyone have any insight on a childless marriage? What sort of things should we expect? Fear? Enjoy? Do you think we'll change our minds later?

Thanks for your advice in advance...

I've been working at my company for 4 months now. I took the job because it paid 40% more than my previous one and it will look good on my resume.

But I'm having a hard time dealing with my perfectionist boss. I don't know how to handle situations where I get an earfull about a typo or some small something.

He has a habit of blaming me for things I didn't do wrong, or that he did wrong, and won't admit to a mistake on his part even when I'm over here taking blame for his mistake.

He has bad health problems because he's so stressed out all the time and his stress is making me stressed. I want to do a good job but I just can't please him it seems like. My job as his assistant I feel is to make his life easier but it seems like I'm doing the opposite.

I can't go to anyone about it because....he's the president of the company so it stops with him. From what my coworkers said I don't think confronting him would help, I just need to change myself.

Please give serious advice.

I'm writing a story, and this sample is set where a woman is on an island all alone. Please post suggestions as to how this can be more imaginatave.

A B C D E F G O D S A V E M E

She chuckled at her own joke, for it was obvious if God were going to save her, He would have done it already. Nevertheless, she remained hopeful of a sign of rescue or a way out. But the tide was coming in and she watched the letters darken with moisture and dissolve into the trembling translucence. But as the words faded away, so did her smile.

A single tear rolled down her cheek without warning; a true unhindered spec of emotion falling into oblivion, much like her own heart, for she had neither the love of a man, nor the love of God, who had seemingly forgotten her. Until this moment, the dam remained strong. Staying busy helped pass the time and took her mind off the issues hidden in the locked chest of her heart.

I am a Texas resident and am having a horrible time finding any school that I can attend during the hours I'm available (anywhere that is NOT monday-friday 8:00am-6:00pm). The only online school I found that offers this degree is going to cost me $30,000 for two years, which is way out of my budget.

How did you get your degree while working full-time?