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I need your opinion ladies!

Anyone have an idea as to why??

I know many ?s like this have been posted already, but I cant seem to find one like mine.. I have a 26 on average day cycle. Im not sure when I ovulate. We're not actively trying but not against another baby either (we have a 16 month old son). Anyway with him I got pregnant on day 12 with a 25 day cycle.. now my cycles are 26 days long and so far i hadnt had any really regular ovulation signs. Had ewcm.. but not much in the past months. I've only been completely off bc for about 4 months now. Anyway lmp was 3/29 (6 days long). We baby danced yesterday (4/07- daddys bday lol) last night i noticed a small amount of ewcm but I figured it was from the sex, and before sex cm was creamy. Now today I had a huge glob of ewcm.. it wasnt clear all the way through had some white spots but was still thick and stretchy.. def didnt have tht at all last month.

Now my dilemma is my ovulation calendar says ov should be sunday 4/10 or monday 4/11, but if i conceive on day 12 then ill ovulate tomorrow 4/09. and with the big amount of cm having started today.. when do you girls think ovulation is most likely to occur? and if I dont have sex again except yesterday 4/07.. are my chances of conceiving pretty good?

I know many ?s like this have been posted already, but I cant seem to find one like mine.. I have a 26 on average day cycle. Im not sure when I ovulate. We're not actively trying but not against another baby either (we have a 16 month old son). Anyway with him I got pregnant on day 12 with a 25 day cycle.. now my cycles are 26 days long and so far i hadnt had any really regular ovulation signs. Had ewcm.. but not much in the past months. I've only been completely off bc for about 4 months now. Anyway lmp was 3/29 (6 days long). We baby danced yesterday (4/07- daddys bday lol) last night i noticed a small amount of ewcm but I figured it was from the sex, and before sex cm was creamy. Now today I had a huge glob of ewcm.. it wasnt clear all the way through had some white spots but was still thick and stretchy.. def didnt have tht at all last month.

Now my dilemma is my ovulation calendar says ov should be sunday 4/10 or monday 4/11, but if i conceive on day 12 then ill ovulate tomorrow 4/09. and with the big amount of cm having started today.. when do you girls think ovulation is most likely to occur? and if I dont have sex again except yesterday 4/07.. are my chances of conceiving pretty good?

I am very hurt. Okay. I need honest opinions but please no rude or disrespectful comments. Im in this section because i wasnt gettin any good answers in the right section. I thought maybe i need some grown woman help. im 20

My boyfriend is in school an hr away. He's without a car right now so all trips to see each other right now is dependent upon me. My son and I were with him last wknd and the one before tht. Anyway. Hes been saying all week he wishes he could come home and he misses us and it sucks being without us and he wants to see us. He says he's not coming home. Then the next day, he says he going to b in the downtown of our city. Hes coming down with friends (since he has no car). They're going to go to the clubs for his friends 21st bday. I assume Im not invited because im not 21 yet (till october). Im bummed he didnt even mention wanting to see me after saying hes gonna be 20 mins from me which is rarely the case.

After i mention tht he says he cant wait till im 21 and he can take me out with him. but only after i mention it. The this evening when he gets here. he tells me hes arrived and tht theyve decided to stay in a hotel for the night. him and his 3 male friends, and 1 of his friends girlfriends. Still no mention of wanting to see me tonight after the party of in the morning.. so now im really hurt and upset because hes spent all week saying how he misses me.. he has an opportunity to see me and doesnt even try to.

So i call him and we're arguing back and forth. he says he came with his friends and itd b rude to see me while hes with them.. y?? i explain how i feel, and he says tables turned he wouldnt be upset. then he says ok well do u wanna come stay with me tonight or come before i leave in the am. i told him i dont know because if he really wanted me with him it woulda been mentioned as soon as he got home and found out he was staying. he asks if i want him to call i told him i dont care. I ended up texting him and saying i didnt want to see him at all..

Am i wrong for feeling this way? he feels im being selfish and over reacting. and says everytime he goes out i have something negative to say like i dont trust him (i do have major trust issues). i feel like he hardly ever is home to see me.. so the one time hes close he could ask for 5 or 10 mins after the party or in the morning. and if he really wanted to see me and he missed me like he says he woulda at least tried to have contact. like he told me where he was staying and everything and still didnt mention wanting to see me. I am so upset i dont want to see or talk to him..

And let me add this is so out of character for him.. we've been together 8 months and usually he goes out of his way to see me spend time with me and our son. Im just shocked and very hurt

I am very hurt. Okay. I need honest opinions but please no rude or disrespectful comments.

My boyfriend is in school an hr away. He's without a car right now so all trips to see each other right now is dependent upon me. My son and I were with him last wknd and the one before tht. Anyway. Hes been saying all week he wishes he could come home and he misses us and it sucks being without us and he wants to see us. He says he's not coming home. Then the next day, he says he going to b in the downtown of our city. Hes coming down with friends (since he has no car). They're going to go to the clubs for his friends 21st bday. I assume Im not invited because im not 21 yet (till october). Im bummed he didnt even mention wanting to see me after saying hes gonna be 20 mins from me which is rarely the case.

After i mention tht he says he cant wait till im 21 and he can take me out with him. but only after i mention it. The this evening when he gets here. he tells me hes arrived and tht theyve decided to stay in a hotel for the night. him and his 3 male friends, and 1 of his friends girlfriends. Still no mention of wanting to see me tonight after the party of in the morning.. so now im really hurt and upset because hes spent all week saying how he misses me.. he has an opportunity to see me and doesnt even try to.

So i call him and we're arguing back and forth. he says he came with his friends and itd b rude to see me while hes with them.. y?? i explain how i feel, and he says tables turned he wouldnt be upset. then he says ok well do u wanna come stay with me tonight or come before i leave in the am. i told him i dont know because if he really wanted me with him it woulda been mentioned as soon as he got home and found out he was staying. he asks if i want him to call i told him i dont care. I ended up texting him and saying i didnt want to see him at all..

Am i wrong for feeling this way? he feels im being selfish and over reacting. and says everytime he goes out i have something negative to say like i dont trust him (i do have major trust issues). i feel like he hardly ever is home to see me.. so the one time hes close he could ask for 5 or 10 mins after the party or in the morning. and if he really wanted to see me and he missed me like he says he woulda at least tried to have contact. like he told me where he was staying and everything and still didnt mention wanting to see me. I am so upset i dont want to see or talk to him..

Its things like full body massage, a daddy day where im baby free all day (we have a 15 month old son), movie night and so on

Ok my hangup is.. i dont want to make him do something for me he really doesnt want because i have a coupon. I want him to do things with and for me from his heart like I do for him. Lots of times I dont feel like watching the bball or football game, or Im too tired to give him a massage but I do anyway.

I feel this way because ive never seen the movie the notebook.. He's seen it a few times, and told me I need to watch it. But when i asked him to watch it with me he said 'idk babe, i gotta be in the mood for tht, use a coupon'.. And just sitting in the house and watching it.. not an actual date. i dont want to force him to cuddle and watch the movie with me if thts not what he wants to do, and now Im wondering is tht the deal with all the coupons and what happens when I run out? I use them when he's not up to doing whatever I want so I whip out a coupon??

Am I being sensitive or over reacting? If it matters we're 20 and 22.

My sons father has never been consistent in keeping a job, or paying child support. He visits and picks up my son more often than not.. Half the time it seems like hes trying to help, then the other half he's disrespectful calling me cursing and threatening me whenever i dont do what he wants, or things dont go his way. He's very demanding in what he wants to b included on (like my sons first haircut.. tht i did not invite him to, he was aware i wanted to cut it, i did the cut myself), what all he wants to know and b informed of.. but is not nearly not ever been as passionate about helping financially. He'll help out sometime always not much, but has an issue with buying pampers for his own house but still paying child support. i always have to remind him and keep asking him to help with most things. and its a big blow up at least once a month.. i hope things will get better and he always says they will, but so far they havent just gotten steadily worse.

Now my question is my family and some of my friend are saying i should be thankful for what he does do whenever he does it. and thank him for it.. but i cant wrap my heart around it.. No shows me thanks and appreciate for consistently being a good mother, and i dont expect anyone to.. no one is saying to him i need to be thanked, but then why r they telling me i need to be thanking him? Again I am not feeling slighted for not being thanked from anyone, I just dont understand why everyone expects me to do tht for him..

My family says its not enough to just hope for the best.. but i also need to give him positive feedback and thank him for when he does do what he's supposed to do.. but not let him get away with bs or being inconsistent

o and if it matters im 20, hes 21. Im living with my parents, attending a university and in nursing school, and working, hes living with his grandfather and working a full time job.

ok.. so what about the disrepect and threats? Its not an option for us to be back together.. i should appreciate the inconsistentcy and unreliability?

My sons father has never been consistent in keeping a job, or paying child support. He visits and picks up my son more often than not.. Half the time it seems like hes trying to help, then the other half he's disrespectful calling me cursing and threatening me whenever i dont do what he wants, or things dont go his way. He's very demanding in what he wants to b included on (like my sons first haircut.. tht i did not invite him to, he was aware i wanted to cut it, i did the cut myself), what all he wants to know and b informed of.. but is not nearly not ever been as passionate about helping financially. He'll help out sometime always not much, but has an issue with buying pampers for his own house but still paying child support. i always have to remind him and keep asking him to help with most things. and its a big blow up at least once a month.. i hope things will get better and he always says they will, but so far they havent just gotten steadily worse.

Now my question is my family and some of my friend are saying i should be thankful for what he does do whenever he does it. and thank him for it.. but i cant wrap my heart around it.. No shows me thanks and appreciate for consistently being a good mother, and i dont expect anyone to.. no one is saying to him i need to be thanked, but then why r they telling me i need to be thanking him? Again I am not feeling slighted for not being thanked from anyone, I just dont understand why everyone expects me to do tht for him..

My family says its not enough to just hope for the best.. but i also need to give him positive feedback and thank him for when he does do what he's supposed to do.. but not let him get away with bs or being inconsistent

o and if it matters im 20, hes 21. Im living with my parents, attending a university and in nursing school, and working, hes living with his grandfather and working a full time job.

Me and my boyfriend are very open and know alot about eachothers past relationships and history. He told me that sometimes when he is in the mood that he thinks about past experiences. He said not the women themselves, but what happened (like making a movie or a place) and how it was nice and maybe i'll want to do that with him or how he wants that experience with me. He says he doesnt think about the other women or compare me to them or wish i would do something something they did. Just what he liked in the experience that he might want to happen again.

It kinda bothered me because honestly I only want him to think about us and for the most part he says that is whats replaying in his mind. Should I be worried? Or is this normal for him to have those thoughts?

Also, I've been very hurt in the past. Cheated on and lied to, even by my sons father when I was still pregnant. So at times I'm very paranoid about him cheating or finding someone new. We've been good friends the past 2 yrs, dating 9 months, and together almost 6 months, and associates for 4 yrs. He thinks if I keep positive thoughts things will keep looking up for us, and bearing negative thoughts vice versa. But he's very good to me and my son (13 months old). Brings us around his family, says he wants to work to marriage, calls my son his and treats him that way. Says he loves us, and Im the best woman he's been with and he'll never cheat because he's been cheated on and knows how it hurts. How can I stop being so paranoid? Im afraid of bringing bad karma onto our relationship and something bad end up happening.. Help!

Me and my boyfriend are very open and know alot about eachothers past relationships and history. He told me that sometimes when he is in the mood that he thinks about past experiences. He said not the women themselves, but what happened (like making a movie or a place) and how it was nice and maybe i'll want to do that with him or how he wants that experience with me. He says he doesnt think about the other women or compare me to them or wish i would do something something they did. Just what he liked in the experience that he might want to happen again.

It kinda bothered me because honestly I only want him to think about us and for the most part he says that is whats replaying in his mind. Should I be worried? Or is this normal for him to have those thoughts?

Also, I've been very hurt in the past. Cheated on and lied to, even by my sons father when I was still pregnant. So at times I'm very paranoid about him cheating or finding someone new. We've been good friends the past 2 yrs, dating 9 months, and together almost 6 months, and associates for 4 yrs. He thinks if I keep positive thoughts things will keep looking up for us, and bearing negative thoughts vice versa. But he's very good to me and my son (13 months old). Brings us around his family, says he wants to work to marriage, calls my son his and treats him that way. Says he loves us, and Im the best woman he's been with and he'll never cheat because he's been cheated on and knows how it hurts. How can I stop being so paranoid? Im afraid of bringing bad karma onto our relationship and something bad end up happening.. Help!

I have a 13 month old son, with a head full of gorgeous curly hair. Now my thing is its got some lenghth to it, but not so much in the back where he rubbed it out a few months ago.. Now, ive wanted to cut it. But no one else including his dad want me to because its so 'pretty'. Im getting tired of braiding it every 3 days and one ponytail everyday has become quite boring. Any mothers have this same problem? I need help and ideas please! This was him 3 months ago, so its even longer now!

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Ok. Im a 20 yr old mom and 3rd semester freshman. I am trying to take 12 hrs this semester. So far I've got 2 A's, but i think I may end up with a D/F and F in the other classes. My question is, since I have to maintain a 2.0 to stay at my school, will I meet the requirements? And does it have to be a 2.0 cumulatively? or a 2.0 for the semester?

Also, Im standing at a 3.0 right now

Ok. Im a 20 yr old mom and 3rd semester freshman. I am trying to take 12 hrs this semester. So far I've got 2 A's, but i think I may end up with a D/F and F in the other classes. My question is, since I have to maintain a 2.0 to stay at my school, will I meet the requirements? And does it have to be a 2.0 cumulatively? or a 2.0 for the semester?

Ok.. My boyfriend and I have been friends for 2 yrs, dating 8 months and together 5 months. OK. I have a 1 yr old son from a previous relationship. Throughout my entire pregnancy my current bf was there for me, very supportive.

HERES THE DEAL

My sons father comes to spend time with my son, but he is not at all very dependable financially. I buy everything my son needs, besides a pack of pampers he decides to get here and there. Anyway he just lost another job, and wont be able to help me out even further.

Ok.. my bf goes to college out of town and plays bball, he's almost 22 and when ive needed him before has bought my son shoes and pampers, bday and xmas presents. He's gotten me bday gifts flowers and taken me out on dates. This was all with his school money, he hasnt held a job since the summer. He says he loves me and wants to be with me long term, maybe even marriage. he says he loves my son like he's his, and when we're together he acts like he's his.

Where my dilemma comes in is tht he's ran out of school money. So even though he's already bought the babys xmas presents, i have to wait on mine. We cant really go out and do too much cause we dont have the funds, when i go visit him at school i pay for my own gas and for us to eat when we're out there. He says he cant work because school and bball are enough and the couple hrs everyday he spends on the video game he doesnt wanna give up cause thts his down time to relax.

Now of course since my sons father isnt coming through financially, i feel like since my bf says he feels the way he feels about my son and i, i can count on him to help me out financially if i need him. But of course without a job he cant be there in tht way. and Im frustrated cause he wants to claim to have a family but doesnt want to bust his *** to prove he is there no matter what he has to do. I feel like its easy to provide when the money is right there, but what about when u gotta work hard for it to keep providing?? He says he doesnt feel 100% my son is his because he doesnt get to spend the kind of time he wants with my son cause he's gone at school, he says he doesnt feel like he can reach out and tell me he wants my son with him sometime. Another thing is he says its hard to wrap around the idea of completely taking over another mans responsibility, when tht man claims to b dad of the yr but isnt. But if he loves my son what does tht have to do with it? What does he mean?

Should i leave him? Am i being unrealistic about my expectations of him?

My feelings are a bit hurt and idk what to think about it all... help please??

So.. I'm texting my boyfriend. (he's about an hour away at college). He's about to share with me some story about some dream he had. Then he disappears, after about 10 mins I ask him is he gonna tell me. He says yea but hes on the phone with his mom. Understandable. About 30 mins later he starts texting me again so im thinkin the conversation is about to pick back up. I call him to let our son talk to him a few mins after he starts texting me back. Then he says oh im on the phone with my cousin now, he jus called me back from earlier. This was at 1030pm, its 1230 now.. still no call back. So I call him back and he's still on the phone. He calls back like 10 mins later and was actin like everything was cool. is it wrong of me to expect a courtesy call or text?

We've been dating since March '10, together since July '10. So he goes to see this psychic. I dont like it. We are both supposed to be Christains, and he was supposed to be raised Catholic. We have a bit diff views on things. I had him promise me he wouldn't go back because i think tht its nonsense and brings about bad things. He promised me he would stop.

Later on he comes back saying how he doesnt think he'll be able to keep that promise because thats one way he and his family bond, by going to see psychics. He says he doesnt depend on them, but just uses it as a guide, he said he can't see himself never going again. He said he's hurt because he feels like I'm trying to change his beliefs and him as a person. I'm just trying to break a bad habit. He says that since he's been doin it before we started dating he should be able to continue as long as he doesn't include me in it.

The psychic told him he'd find a new love in March, and that it could be me or someone else. So of course now I'm worried about him cheating or meeting someone else, and him thinking o yea the psychic said this would happen!!!

Now the thing that hurt me was that before I started dating him I was celibate. Had been for 9 months since having my son. I told him I wanted to remain celibate. He said that he felt he wouldn't be able to totally show me his love for me or express it if we weren't having sex. So thinking ok, I'll comprimise myself and my beliefs for him and our relationship I gave myself to him. Now that it's come back around and its his turn to change something he does, he's not willing.

I told him I didnt want to have sex anymore, and he said he's not okay with it but its my decision. I told him why I changed my mind. Because I felt like I changed for him thinking he'd do the same for me, and when he didn't I felt I had made a huge mistake. He seemed so nonchalant about it as well. And didnt mention anything about himself being unwilling to change, like he's stuck and not changing his mind.

Before now he's been a great boyfriend. Of course we've had bumps in the road, but we've kept on movin. He loves me and my son, helps me take care of him. Comes back often from school (he's 45 mins away) to see us and spend time with us. But idk if this is jus another hardship, or a giant red flag saying he's not willing to grow and change.

He's said before he wants us to grow together, communicate and love eachother equally. But in this instance I dont feel like he's willing to give what he wants to get. Any opinions on how I should handle this? Why would he be acting so nonchalant about me not wanting to have sex anymore giving my reasoning? I'm really hurt over this ...

Im 20 he's 21, im in this section to hear from fellow moms

We've been dating since March '10, together since July '10. So he goes to see this psychic. I dont like it. We are both supposed to be Christains, and he was supposed to be raised Catholic. We have a bit diff views on things. I had him promise me he wouldn't go back because i think tht its nonsense and brings about bad things. He promised me he would stop.

Later on he comes back saying how he doesnt think he'll be able to keep that promise because thats one way he and his family bond, by going to see psychics. He says he doesnt depend on them, but just uses it as a guide, he said he can't see himself never going again. He said he's hurt because he feels like I'm trying to change his beliefs and him as a person. I'm just trying to break a bad habit. He says that since he's been doin it before we started dating he should be able to continue as long as he doesn't include me in it.

The psychic told him he'd find a new love in March, and that it could be me or someone else. So of course now I'm worried about him cheating or meeting someone else, and him thinking o yea the psychic said this would happen!!!

Now the thing that hurt me was that before I started dating him I was celibate. Had been for 9 months since having my son. I told him I wanted to remain celibate. He said that he felt he wouldn't be able to totally show me his love for me or express it if we weren't having sex. So thinking ok, I'll comprimise myself and my beliefs for him and our relationship I gave myself to him. Now that it's come back around and its his turn to change something he does, he's not willing.

I told him I didnt want to have sex anymore, and he said he's not okay with it but its my decision. I told him why I changed my mind. Because I felt like I changed for him thinking he'd do the same for me, and when he didn't I felt I had made a huge mistake. He seemed so nonchalant about it as well. And didnt mention anything about himself being unwilling to change, like he's stuck and not changing his mind.

Before now he's been a great boyfriend. Of course we've had bumps in the road, but we've kept on movin. He loves me and my son, helps me take care of him. Comes back often from school (he's 45 mins away) to see us and spend time with us. But idk if this is jus another hardship, or a giant red flag saying he's not willing to grow and change.

He's said before he wants us to grow together, communicate and love eachother equally. But in this instance I dont feel like he's willing to give what he wants to get. Any opinions on how I should handle this? Why would he be acting so nonchalant about me not wanting to have sex anymore giving my reasoning? I'm really hurt over this ...

Im 20 he's 21

Ok, now my boyfriend has gone twice to this particular man. I've even been once as well about 7 weeks ago. He told me I'd have a great life, have a few more children, and he could see me marrying my boyfriend.

Now, the first time my bf went to see this man, the man told him about his career, as well as saying he could see my bf and I getting married and living a wonderful life together. Saying how our home would be harmonious, and we'd have a few bumps in the road but nothing major. That we'd have a few more children, and live a good life. Me and my bf hadnt been having any problems then.

This second time the same man told me bf that he didnt see us getting married, and that if we did we'd be very unhappy and it'd only be a matter of time before we get a divorce. He also said we were having 4 more children instead of 3 more. He told my bf we were about to go through a hard time and that he would find a new love in March, and that it would end badly in May. He said the new love could be me or someone else (but it sounds like cheating to me?). And that starting in May, my bf and I would have a totally new beginning in our relationship.

I had my bf promise to not go ever anymore because I think psychics are bad business. No one should try to find out their future. It just causes unnecessarry worry.

So whats your interpretation on this? Does it sound phony to you? And why would his vision change in only a matter of weeks? Am I concerned over bull**** for no reason? My mom thinks I should just carry on as if he never even told me that and to not let it affect anything, but I kind of feel like protecting myself now. What do you all think?

My bf thinks readings are guides. But doesn't want us to break up or end. And he say's he'll never cheat (we dont use condoms so tht would be a concern). He said what the psychic said made him want to work harder at our relationship. (its long distance and a child is involved) Should i trust him on that?

Ok, now my boyfriend has gone twice to this particular man. I've even been once as well about 7 weeks ago. He told me I'd have a great life, have a few more children, and he could see me marrying my boyfriend.

Now, the first time my bf went to see this man, the man told him about his career, as well as saying he could see my bf and I getting married and living a wonderful life together. Saying how our home would be harmonious, and we'd have a few bumps in the road but nothing major. That we'd have a few more children, and live a good life. Me and my bf hadnt been having any problems then.

This second time the same man told me bf that he didnt see us getting married, and that if we did we'd be very unhappy and it'd only be a matter of time before we get a divorce. He also said we were having 4 more children instead of 3 more. He told my bf we were about to go through a hard time and that he would find a new love in March, and that it would end badly in May. He said the new love could be me or someone else (but it sounds like cheating to me?). And that starting in May, my bf and I would have a totally new beginning in our relationship.

I had my bf promise to not go ever anymore because I think psychics are bad business. No one should try to find out their future. It just causes unnecessarry worry.

So whats your interpretation on this? Does it sound phony to you? And why would his vision change in only a matter of weeks? Am I concerned over bull**** for no reason? My mom thinks I should just carry on as if he never even told me that and to not let it affect anything, but I kind of feel like protecting myself now. What do you all think?