MagicPapaya

For the past couple of weeks, I don't know an exact time, I've felt very lonely, sad, lazy/unmotivated, etc. And it's nothing like I have nobody to talk to, a terrible event happened, etc. Part of it I feel is that I haven't been getting enough sleep, but that isn't the entire answer to this. I'm worried i'm becoming depressed or something.

I'm a very active person (I am in my school's marching band and i do other activities) and I have many supportive friends. So i don't know why I've felt so down.

Some of the things I've been feeling include: lonliness (especially when I'm home after school), annoyance (I've been struggling with a couple things in school), fatigue (band, etc), sadness (sometimes I just want to cry at school), and laziness (I'm stuck in a habit of coming home, eating, and blowing off homework to play video games).

One thing I feel like is a major contributer to this is my recent distancing of one of my previously major friends (thats an entirely different issue, but after a weird period of liking each other then slowly drifting, I have stopped talking to him in an effort to forget he even exists).

People are starting to notice my change in demeanor at school, and my parents kind of do too. What should/can I do to make myself happier?

Thanks for reading! I really need an answer!

So, this guy I really like finally asked me out to go see a movie, and it was a great time. He likes me as well, however there is a problem. We used to talk all day everyday (before he asked me out), and after we went out on the movie date, things seemed normal. However, the weekend following that, he told me he needed to "analyze" how he felt about me before telling me if we could be an official thing. So, I let him, and I really thought things would go well. However, after promising to tell me in person (and failing to), he tells me over text that he wouldn't want to go out with me, but he "still likes me." He also said things like, "I don't think i could handle a relationship/i wouldnt have the capacity to/i'm a robot, i cant feel certain feelings" and stuff like that. When i asked him why he wouldn't try, he wouldn't answer.

Now, much to my dismay, he has been ignoring the majority of my messages. For ex., my mom went to the hospital the other day bc of an illness. I told him about it, he said he was sorry, then ignored me. The next day, i said what happened to her and she was gonna be ok, and he replied "ah" then ignored me.

This is really bothering me; I care about him so much. But now, we barely talk at all and all he sends are one word replies, or he ignores me. I really want to ask what's wrong, but i dont want to annoy him, and when i asked him that before, he said nothing.

What should i do? I'm really down about it.

I have a friend who i met this year in school, & since then we have started talking very frequently. With the exception of a recent trip, we talk all day and everyday. We end only when one of us falls asleep at night. At first, we had so much to talk about, since we didn't really know everything about each other. But now, after talking almost constantly for a few months, neither of us can really think of anything to say. Our counversations are like "what should we talk about?" & "I don't know", "um/uh" etc. Part of it: we are both quiet & introverted & I also experience social anxiety from time to time. I thought we would be just friends, as when we started talking I was going out with someone else, but since then I ended the previous relationship. I noticed him acting a bit odd, so I asked him about it, and he said he liked me. So that provided maybe a day of conversation but things are back to normal. We haven't been able to see each other because of my trip & the fact that my parents are against me hanging out with guys for whatever reason (which would take up a whole other question), but we will get to in a few days. I do like him, but it would be awkward for both of us if I used that as a conversational topic all the time. Also, we aren't going out yet.

My questions:

-Should I try to fix our conversations? If so, how?

-Because of my social anxiety and trust issues, I often blame myself for things & I can't accept compliments. How do I fix this, especially around him?

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My best friend (since 1st grade, I'm a sophomore now) and I are drifting from eachother. It started about 6 months ago. Occasionally I would notice she would talk to me less, especially during the bus ride to/from school and at lunch. At each of these three scenarios, there was at least one of our other friends present and she would begin to talk to them a bit more than she would talk to me. Often times, I would try to engage myself into their conversations, but they often talked about inside jokes they had or the new music they were listening to, things I couldn't talk about. More recently, my best friend and our other two good friends have become interested in new and different media, like music and books that I have not listened to or read. They often discuss these things nowadays and I feel isolated from their conversations. However, I don't really have an interest in what they are newly interested in, so I'm not going to read these books or whatever just to be in their conversations. I believe that sometimes they should talk with me about things I'm interested in. However, I feel like this is partially my fault. I recently got a boyfriend and now, before school starts, I generally hang out with him and his friends, instead of what I did before (hanging out with her and her friends). I don't spend an obsessive amount with him, but I feel like this was a major reason my friends have been ignoring me (all friends mentioned are single).

What should I do? Thanks :)

My best friend (since 1st grade, I'm a sophomore now) and I seem to be drifting from eachother. It started about 6 months ago. Occasionally I would notice she would talk to me less, especially during the bus ride to/from school and at lunch. At each of these three scenarios, there was at least one of our other friends present and she would begin to talk to them a bit more than she would talk to me. Often times, I would try to engage myself into their conversations, but they often talked about inside jokes they had or the new music they were listening to, things I couldn't talk about. More recently, my best friend and our other two good friends have become interested in new and different media, like music and books that I have not listened to or read. They often discuss these things nowadays and I feel isolated from their conversations. However, I don't really have an interest in what they are newly interested in, so I'm not going to read these books or whatever just to be in their conversations. I believe that sometimes they should talk with me about things I'm interested in. However, I feel like this is partially my fault. I recently got a boyfriend and now, before school starts, I generally hang out with him and his friends, instead of what I did before (hanging out with her and her friends). I don't spend an obsessive amount with him, but I feel like this was a major reason my friends have been ignoring me (all friends mentioned are single).

What should I do? Thanks :)

Hi, yesterday I got a message on chrome saying I had to update chrome and some video player thing was out of date. At first I thought it was a scam but the url looked alright and i also remembered that I had been getting messages on my phone that chrome has recently gotten an update. So, I went ahead and clicked on the update link on this page that had popped up asking to update chrome. An installer came up, it looked ok as well, so I clicked accept and all that jazz. However it was asking me to install these random toolbars or software that you get sometimes with downloads. I didn't accept any of them, and the installer started updating. I still thought it was legit because chrome then closed by itself.

However, a day later. I have several things going wrong. I have two new icons in that bar in the bottom right corner of my desktop (i forget its name) and both have to do with scanning my computer for harmful/outdated files and such. Also, about 50-60% of the time I click on something in chrome, whether its a new tab, a link, or just blank space on a website, a pop-up appears with an ad for one of those random advertisement sites that are totally fake. Also, every once in awhile, a menu of some sorts flys in from the bottom of chrome with several ads on it.

So now I know that "updating chrome" wasn't the best idea. How can I make sure to uninstall and get rid of anything that may have been downloaded yesterday? And how can I get chrome back to normal? Thank you!

-This is quite long, so please take the time to read my question. Even if you cannot answer all the questions present, please contribute what you know as this will be greatly appreciated.-

A pony at my barn has been quite "grumpy" for as long as anyone there can remember. In the pasture, he will lunge at, bite, and kick any horse/pony that comes to close to him. Even the larger horses will not put up much of a fight with this pony (there are a total of around 20-25 horses in this pasture generally at all times). If he is contained in one of the stalls connected to the pasture and another horse is led by, he will tuck his head in a bit, pin his ears back, bob his head, make small nipping motions, and the clicking of his teeth is very audible. If the horse being led by is close enough, the pony will also reach out his head to bite the other's barrel/flank/etc.

When he is being led, whether it be by halter/lead rope or bridle, he will pin his ears at other horses nearby. He doesn't usually do that to the person leading him, but he will attempt to nip/bite at the person leading him. This pony is used for riding lessons with small children and summer camps, so quite often he will take advantage of being around small children and bite even more.

Being ridden by older, more experienced riders, of course he is better behaved as we correct his problems as soon as they are displayed. However, he will return to his normal self quite soon afterwards.

When the children in summer camp, most of who have never ridden a horse in their life, ride this pony, several more problems arise which often scare the kids into not wanting to ride. As soon as the children are on and holding their reins, the pony begins to bob his head and drag the kid around, back to the center of the arena (I am well aware that this is an action displaying his unwillingness to work and his desire to stand in the center with his "buddies" (who he will often lunge at)). The children learning to ride are taught to keep a short rein with little to no slack between the bit and their hand, so they can learn to steer their horses. We know to give a horse their head at times, but these kids cannot understand that concept. However, the pony will start to bob his head in large motions, which causes the child's hands and body to flop forward onto his neck. When their reins are lengthened a bit, he bobs his head lower to the ground and continues to jostle the rider. During summer camp, we have experienced people walking with the kids and their ponies, but this does not stop any of the issues stated previously. With someone holding on to the pony's noseband to attempt to keep his head up, he will still bob his head and I have realized that bopping up his head, pulling it up, or slapping his nose or neck does nothing to discipline the pony.

I did read that slapping a horse is not effective because prey animals cannot understand discipline in that way, and they only think that you are "biting them back" and competeing against them. Is this true?

Another problem which was stated briefly before is that this pony will lunge at other horses in the arena. No matter if it is one of the most well-behaved horses around, he will still lunge at them or even attempt to kick. If nobody is standing close to the pony when everyone is gathered at the center of the arena, he will begin his antics by looking at the other horse, slightly turning his body in their direction, start bobbing his head and pin his ears, the lunge. This is one of the worse problems which startles the children, and everyone is tired of working with the pony.

Well, that concludes the details of the issues. I will be seeing this pony throughout the summer, a week at a time, then I will be away for a week or more (I will not see this pony for more than a week at a time). Also, I will only be able to work with the pony when I am catching him from the pasture, tacking him up, leading him to and from the riding arena, supervising/walking with the children riding him, and untacking/washing him. We will always be around kids, usually 8-10 at a time. I will not be able to ride the pony.

So, my questions are these:

-How can I stop the pony's issues when he is not being ridden?

-How can I prevent the bobbing/lunging/etc. in the riding arena?

-What small exercises could I do with the pony around the kids who are riding?

And,

-How can I make this pony better behaved and fix all the problems stated?

Thank you so much for taking your time to read this. Any helpful tidbits will be greatly appreciated. I would NOT like to subscribe to any magazines or training programs or pay for any handbooks. Thanks again!

First of all, I know some of you will think something along the lines of "She should handle her own problems" but I don't know how to handle this situation.

I met a guy during the 1st semester of this current school year, and at first we were acquaintances then became friends. After awhile, lo and behold, I began to like him. There was an annoying guy in one of the classes we shared who bothered us and thought we liked eachother, and one day the guy I liked and I were texting and talked about how annoying the other guy was. We also both said we didn't like eachother so we shouldn't worry about anything, and at the time I didn't see it like it was a big deal.

Then, he (the guy I liked) began to lie to me, over text messages, but I didn't tell him I didn't believe anything he said. It was winter break and he told me things like, "i am talking to my other friend right now he says he likes you and might ask you out when school gets back" and "hes looking over my shoulder right now telling me to stop talking to you."

Eventually I got fed up with the lies and for some reason wrote him a long message explaining how I felt about him and how he needed to cut the lies. (In case you're wondering why this was all of text messages it was because we didn't get alot of time to talk in school because of class differences and never saw eachother outside of school.)

It turns out right before I sent the message he had fallen asleep and didn't get the message until the next morning... haha. Anyways, he read it and I don't exactly remember what he said about my message/feelings, but he did say he wanted to talk to me some point during the day about it. So we met during lunch to talk about it. He was awfully quiet and seemed nervous, and told me that he wasn't sure if we should go out or just be friends. He also said we might just go to a movie or something and hang out so "he could decide." Honestly I wasn't sad at his answer at all, I just agreed to whatever he said and we worked it out.

But now, its been awhile and nothing has happened. We talk more during school and message eachother more as well. Recently I was having a bad day and spilled to him that I thought he had forgotten all of our previous conversations regarding our feelings or whatever, and he said he hadn't forgotten, just that he "didn't know how to start a relationship" or something along those lines. I understand what he means and respect that, but I do not think his answer is very reasonable considering other/past events.

I do kind of want to go out with him, but I feel like I can wait for him, if that's the smart thing to do.

So have any of you experienced this or know how I should deal with it? Should I do anything at all besides wait?

PS: My best friend tells me its VERY obvious he likes me, apparently, but I don't feel it. Am I kinda friendzoning him without knowing it or am I just a cliche, oblivious girl? haha.

Honestly, I find it annoying that, as girls/women, we have to wait around waiting for the guys to ask us out or the like. Sure, we can go up to them and ask them, I've done it before, but I don't get why girls asking guys is considered weird and wrong.

Also, I don't think that girls should be after the "hot" guys all the time. All the people I've liked haven't been that attractive, but they are genuinely good people. My friends asked me "girl, you can do better. Why do you like that guy?" because they weren't as attractive as others that were around. I just don't think looks matter that much. I like being around good people.

Some other things I've been wondering are if how I feel about my looks is weird. Honestly I don't wear makeup and don't want to any time soon, I don't do my hair like most girls do (and even usually just brush it out then leave it alone), and even though I like to shop and get new clothes I just don't care if people, especially other girls, think: "ew, her style is awful."

I'm basically asking, are my opinions over these topics weird/abnormal in any way?

PS: I didn't know where to categorize this question...

I need to download some songs, but there are only a couple cents in my account left.

If I were to add a card (not a gift card) to my billing options, how would it work?

For example, when I buy songs will it just automatically take it form the card (like a steady stream of money) or would I have to choose an option saying "put $20 in my account" and use that $20 until it runs out then use the card and put $20 more in my account to use?

Sorry if this is hard to understand, it was hard for me to explain. So if you need clarifying I will be glad to add more details.

:) Thank you!

So for the past few days, after I eat something, I get cramps/stomach aches. It goes away after 15 minutes or so, but it always happens after I eat. Whats going on?

Also- I guess I would consider it an intestinal ache (lol). Because its more in the area of my intestines. lol.

So lately I just randomly get itchy in random places, I itch a little bit, then it turns into a hot, red, itchy and lumpy rash thing. I put lotion on it and it goes away.

How do I fix this? Thanks.

I brush my hair back so it covers the part in the middle then try to put t up in a ponytail as usual. But hair always falls back to the sides of my head and the part keeps reappearing! Please help!!

So i have an old iPod i think its a 3rd generation but im not sure, and I can't guess the passcode at all!! So when i go into the computer i last synced it with and click on the device in itunes to go and restore (basically reset everything) the ipod, it is showing me nothing but the word iPod and it is telling me that i cant connect to the itunes store because I have no internet, but I do or else i couldnt be writing this! So how do i reset (restore) my old ipod? IS there a real way to get pass the passcode? Thx <3

So I have an old version of an iPod i had a long time ago but i lost it then found it recently. I can't guess the passcode to save my life, and it says to plug my ipod into itunes. however, the itunes that this old ipod used was on my computer, and is no longer installed on my computer (but when i search for itunes files, some still show up but not the itunes software itself). So if I reinstall itunes, will the ipod work again?

Ok so I want to be prettier and I have little no idea how to fix these problems:

(btw I am in 8th grade so dont ask hehe)

1. I wash my face twice a day but once in awhile all of a sudden a pimple will appear after one night, and it is often sore when i touch it.

2. My hair is a plain boring medium brown and straight, some natural highlites and some layers. It reaches down to just above the end of my shoulder blade (a few inches below the shoulder). It is extremely hard to curl/ make waves!! How can I jazz up my hair?

3. Often the skin around my nails peels/gets really dry. SHould I just use a normal hand lotion or is it true I can use chapstick on my cuticles too?

4. I get swollen on the left side of my right ring finger (my writing hand) and it gets red when I write. How can I keep it normal?

5. I have freckles but they have been semi-disaappearing lately. How can I get them away? I HATE THEM.

Ok now for personality/ life questions:

1. So i have liked this guy since late last school year and he told me he liked me but he never talks to me. but one of my friends in another class that he is also in tells me that he gets embaressed when my name comes up. So should i just wait it out?

2. Ok I'm gonna get a bunch of hate for this but how can I be a bit more popular?

3. So I think I am sorta too crazy. Like I have so many inside jokes and I just act really weird around people, how do i just become more quietish?

Thank you! :D

*Reposted as my previous version got no answers...*

So I like this guy and we have gone to dances together about 3 or 4 times, but we aren't dating. Before the conversation below, I doubted that he liked me or knew I liked him, and he probablly thought we were going to the dances as friends. But my main concern is the conversation we had at the last dance:

Me: So my friend convinced me to ask you if you liked me.

Him: Which friend?

(At this point I was thinking, "why does it matter?!")

Me: Umm, _____. (name ommitted, it was my best friend though)

Him: Then yes.

Why did he care who told me to ask him? And at school we only say hi to eachother only once or twice a day with the exception of the once-a-week "hi was the test hard what do you think you got, bye now" conversation. This guy is a sports player @ school but not one of those jerks... he's super nice and smart. But he seems to always be hanging around friends and his twin brother...

So, should I keep hoping one day we will hang out more, or should I give up on him?

Thankies! <3

So I like this guy and we have gone to dances together about 3 or 4 times, but we aren't dating. Before the conversation below, I doubted that he liked me or knew I liked him, and he probablly thought we were going to the dances as friends. But my main concern is the conversation we had at the last dance:

Me: So my friend convinced me to ask you if you liked me.

Him: Which friend?

(At this point I was thinking, "why does it matter?!")

Me: Umm, _____. (name ommitted, it was my best friend though)

Him: Then yes.

Why did he care who told me to ask him? And at school we only say hi to eachother only once or twice a day with the exception of the once-a-week "hi was the test hard what do you think you got, bye now" conversation. This guy is a sports player @ school but not one of those jerks... he's super nice and smart. But he seems to always be hanging around friends and his twin brother...

So, should I keep hoping one day we will hang out more, or should I give up on him?

Thankies! <3

I am making a parody-ish video about "the hunger games" that is no longer than 2 minutes long, and I am summing it up with the most important scenes. So, which of the following am I allowed to use as a script for my parody:

The Same Words (as in the book),

Some of the same words,

or

I have to make up a completely different dialogue?

This is assuming I do not ask Suzanne Collins or anyone for permission about anything.

*****Warning: this question has some spoilers about ''THE HUNGER GAMES'' book*****

Ok so lately I have been getting into producing funny videos with friends. So far we have mostly done off-the-top-of-our-heads videos, but I had another idea.

MY IDEA: (plz give constructive crit. and your ideas too! If you have a youtube channel, I might give you some credit!)

OK so basically, I wanted to "sum up" popular teen fiction books in a comedic but short way. My first thought was "The Hunger Games" by Suzanne Collins, as I have recently read it and LOVED IT!

So if I went with this idea, what do you think I should do to make it funny, but keep it at a max of 2 minutes long? I wanted to show the most important parts of the story line in a funny way (Reaping Day, the parade with District 12's fire outfits, the games, the winning of Katniss and Peeta, etc.). Also, I was thinking of exaggerating or altering in a funny way an annoying or funny feature for each character (for example, a huge outrageous wig and outfit for Effie Trinket or making Haymitch carry around a can o' Sprite all the time). What music should I put to it too, haha?

So I currently am brainstorming ideas, but I wanted some advice from you guys about how to make it hilarious! Constructive crit is also wanted!

p.s.: What other books should I do?

p.p.s.: Team Gale or Team Peeta? :D