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I'm just asking for some views on some questions I have;

1- What is more important to you, you becoming a Grandparent OR your child becoming a Parent?

2- Did you involve your parents and inlaws as much as you want to be involved?

3- Did you parents/inlaws spend every birthday and Christmas with you or did you like to have it just your own little family?

4- Did you do as much for your childrens Grandparents i.e pictures and drawings constant updates as you expect now?

5- Can you sit back and watch your children parent thier children and understand the Mothers need to mother her children regardless of you begin around OR do you believe that when you are there it's your time to do everything and she should just sit back and let you?

6- Do you now understand your parents heartbreak when you don't see your Grandchildren as often as you would like?

I am a Mother of soon to be 3 and just want to have a little more understanding on the subject.

Thank you

Some close family member told a small child that their Mummy doesn't love them.

I'm just wondering on peoples opinions. If someone had accused you of something would you argue your point out or just say nothing and blank them hoping they'd come round???

Would you believe your child if, they came back from a weekend from grandparents and told you they weren't allowed to tell you anything that happened or was said. Then at random times came out with bits like "grandma told me that you don't love me like Daddy". This is just one thing she's been saying a lot over the last few weeks. I have confronted and of course it's all denied! My problem is I can't believe she would have made it all up. Surely at that age the fibs are all blaming other people for things getting broke, little fibs. Or imaginary things not on this scale. I'd like to hear peoples opinion on this.

Thank you x

I love my mil dearly. But I've never stood up to her or told her when she's pissed me off......till now! The last time she had my children was back in the summer and my eldest has been telling me some things that has been said to her.....negative about me. Of course this is all denied and my eldest is a liar and children lie and I should grow up and believe her! But I don't my daughter will soon be 5 and all this stuff was said just before she started school. She doesn't have the maturity to be making things up to this scale!

I don't really know why I'm writing on here to blow off steam I suppose! But my mil refuses to talk to me until I believe her! She won't see the children it's just an awful and sad situation. I suppose I'm asking if anyone out there has been in a similar situation and what happened? I know I've been sparse in detail but I don't want to go into it too much on line! It's a basic question how do I get back on track with mil without giving in when I don't believe her!