Isla

It was in the girls section so I bought it for school, so now I'm stuck with this backpack and I don't know what to do? Is it noticeable? I know this sounds stupid but will people notice? (Sorry, I have a really bad case of anxiety) can anyone help? Should I style it so it's more feminine? I thought it was unisex...ahhhhh.

I always say the wrong things. I fumble and stutter with my words, which doesn't give off the impression I'm even mildly intelligent. For the past five years, I've been known as the dumb one... And I don't know why. When I'm messaging online (especially in group conversations) I see everyone has read my message... But they don't reply until hours later talking about someone or something different. I'm not interesting... I don't play a sport... I haven't found my niche/forte.... I'm fourteen and I just feel so alienated. I have anxiety problems and sweat over the smallest details. Why? Why do people ignore me... I'm not known for anything. I feel pathetic. Where is my best friend? Do I even have friends...the group I hang out with, they are passive about disliking me (so I just do them a favour and distance myself, it's for the better and I've tried before). Is this normal geez I'm sweating over this again >.< sorry this was long...

I recently turned 14. I've put off joining the club for ages because I'm so afraid of being alienated (since the other girls on the team know each other already, I might just be a shadow on the field), and I'm only a beginner in soccer (I never did any sports growing up, so everyone will be better than me. I only got into he school team by default, and I have no prior experience in soccer.) how do I overcome my insecurities and just move on?

Does good service necessarily mean being bouncy and cheerful? Being a employee in the food industry (as a waitress and order runner) for more than 2 years now, I've seen unreasonable customers come in and expect a schmoozing ritual performed on them. They ask me why i'm not "happy" or why I don't smile at them or why I sound/look angry or grumpy. Is this really necessary? I've had customers walk out the door complaining about my "nasty attitude" however they do not realise that i've performed my services correctly. Though i tend not to smile or laugh, i'm perfectly capable of performing my duties. I have competence. I just don't feel the need to establish giggly or gushy chit chat in a professional backdrop since i'm focussed on other things. I treat all customers with dignity and respect. I don't discriminate or ignore anyone because of how they look or what they are associated with. Whether a customer is unpleasant or not i deal with them.

I know everyone has their own ideals of good service, but why is that people waste time trying to perform a psychiatrist session with me? Do you think this is reasonable?

So every weekend and weeknight i'm sitting at home and watching tv and videos on my phone for atleast 5 hours. I'm failing my grades at school because I have no motivation at all, people are always better than me. I go onto facebook and see all the girls in my class getting likes and doing broadway shows, hiking with their families and at photo shoots advertising clothes and stuff. I feel unwanted. I'm a failure. I have no skills, no talents. I can't swim. I don't know how to play instruments. I'm not athletic. I can barely draw. My writing skills are of a 4th graders'. I sit at home dreaming about nothingness. Yet, I still feel like i can do something, i'm only 13, maybe I could play tennis or take singing lessons. But my parents aren't willing to pay for any classes, the never have. I don't even have a backyard, or anyone to play games with. I have no friends outside of school, nobody even texts me in the holidays. I'm lost, I want to do something, but I don't have the guts to go outside even. My family is condescending and treat me pretty bad. They tell me I can't be a singer or a dancer or and artist and i'm too stupid to understand anything. They call me lazy but it's not my fault i've been caged for as long as I can remember. Then they tell me fine, go outside b*ch. But to what? Theres nothing there/ People stare at me and think i'm a loner. What will I do? I'm not being bullied at school,I have friends. but I feel like I can never connect with anyone. I'm stuck in a rut. I want to be good at something, but I think i'm a waste of space. i'm even beginning to contract the victim mentality, it's always their fault or theirs not mine. People often make me tired too.

How can i find myself? Connect with people? Be out there? Where did you start? PLEASE HELP!

Keeping it short... I pretty much care about EVERYONES' opinion. Whenever someone smirks at me, i get upset. If they call me names, I get upset. If they tell me to shut up and tell me my opinion is stupid i get mad AND upset. I hate it when people judge me. My friends, my own family and even strangers have called me stupid. They voice their opinions but won't let me voice mine. I'm a sunny person most of the time, but i'm really beginning to hate people for rejecting me, bching about me and just giving me the up and down look, giving me the ("uh, LOSER!") I fight with my own family. I can't laugh it off. Please help me! How can I stop being so sensitive towards everyones' opnions?

Today he randomly asked me what i do with my mobile phone. I slid past by yelling out "whatever, nothing." I almost had a heart attack because I've been watching erotica on it for a few months now. Since I have such high libido (from a VERY young age) I'm pretty prone to satisfying my sexual needs. I'm 13yr old girl now and know i've done alot of wrong things in the past. Pretty disturbing actually. I started watching porn a few years ago and have since grown to a pretty over-developed stage for a 13 yr old. I'm way ahead of everyone else in physical looks and everyone already assumes i'm in university. That is the price i pay for watching porn, growing older and uglier all the time. Anyways, my mobile internet connection is linked to my brothers internet account, he probably checked the history. HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID! Now, i know what you're thinking, oh don't worry he's your older bro (7 yrs my senior) he's nice right. NO, NO WRONG. he got into heaps of fistfights during highschool and is incredily controlling and manipulative. He acts like an authorian (even though he's not) and needs to have dominance over everyone. He dobs me in all the time.

I'm scared to go downstairs and talk to him, what do i do?

I'm 13, around 115-120 pounds (54kg) and 167cm (5'6) tall. I have a healthy enough looking physique but lack flexibility in the core region. I am more proficient at speed than endurance, able to bound from one end to the next very quickly. I recover quickly with a few short breaths but i've noticed after a while my strokes are lethargic or hit out of the court due to exhaustion. I'm on the fence about seriously chasing tennis as a passion/pro, but i need a few pointers to guide me. What should I work on? Is my genetic build preventing me from succeeding?

There's a bluish black pigmented spot on a line of my quadrangle region. It's on my right hand (dominant hand).Apparently it means somewhere in the future i'll have some sort of blood disease. My family has a history of high cholesterol. I really hope I don't get it.

Should I be worried? Can anyone verify what this means?

I've known her for around a year year now and it started off okay, we got close.

In the time we hung out, i picked up she was highly competitive, careful, passive aggressive, intense and quite a loner. Nothing wrong with that. Me on the other hand, i'm social, clumsy, humorous, easygoing and very giving. Whenever she was judgemental or cynical i rubbed it off and tried to make a joke out of it to ease her up. I accompanied her, when no-body else bothered too much talking to her. When she made mistakes, i dropped to my knees and helped her pick up all the pieces. She was probably just as a great friend... maybe... but things went really downhill when she began rolling her eyes at me and calling me stupid and dumb. She picked at all my insecurities i thought i could trust her with. She humiliated me infront of my other friends which very honestly, she would've never have met if it weren't for me. I felt betrayed but even more so when she began acting all extroverted and funny. she was all sunny and happy (LIKE ME) while i was still crying it out and trying to figure out what i'd done wrong. She completely changed into someone so positive and ... FAKE! I backtracked and rewinded all my memories with her. All her snide comments, constant interrogations ... I figured out she was a condescending friend and had always been trying to gain dominance over me, trying to squash me down. I feel so stupid for ever trusting her! Now i feel she's become a genuinely good person by observing my way of doing things. I'm upset. I'm lost. I don't know what to do...

PLEASE HELP!

I think i have a condescending friend or something along similar lines... These are the symptoms;

- She calls me stupid and dumb and never apoligises.

- She has been gradually getting more confident and cheerful since conveying her dis respectful behavior towards me.Note that while she's going up in mood i'm going down in happiness.

- She apologises to others for her mistakes but never apologises to me.

- She demands a justification for EVERYTHING I do

"Why are you in a hurry?"

"Why are you intent on doing something active this semester?"

"Why do you want to get that one and not this one?"

- She studies and examines my every move, emotion and look. She stares at my writing when I write and demands and pesters to see my artwork, which i'm not comfortable sharing with her, or anyone anymore.

- If i beat her in a web game she'll brush it off and say "yeah yeah yeah, whatever i know".

What do you think is/are her intention(s)? I've been feeling upset and down lately, i just don't enjoy her presence anymore. She's in alot of my classes next year, and i want to avoid her and find new friends. Even though i've been giving her a sort of cold shoulder she continues to follow me around and chit chat. I can't stand it, she's been robbing me of my happiness, and i haven't been reacting well. I have been backchatting her and falling back in frustration because i can't understand...

PLEASE HELP.

This guy in my class i thought i could trust apparently trash talks me and calls me a S-L-U-T behind me back. I thought he was a nice guy and there were no romantic feelings i had for him whatsoever - but even so i feel so betrayed for being so bubbly and cheerful towards him and everyone else as i am normally. I thought he was my friend, as he chatted openly with me over facebook and acted slightly interested in me. I'm usually with the guys, don't really sit like a proper lady, )i admit) and act sort of perverted and playful when the guys are trying to be funny. I smile alot and laugh with everyone, people sometimes call me a flirt when i'm not, i'm just friendly. I'm upset and have to see him tomorrow... if he talks to me, how should i react?

My friend has recently (around 2 weeks ago) been rolling my eyes at my presence and treating me like utter crap. I know that we may be completely different, I'm extraverted while shes introverted - and i'm more open and friendly while shes more exclusive and secretive, but we're both quite philosophical and love getting into a depth of things together in discussions. I've noticed how she sometimes tries to be like me - and how I've made her alot more confident and open to people. She even admitted a few months ago that if it weren't for me, she wouldn't know around 80% of the people she knows now. She probably wouldn't say so now, she'd deny it all.Sometimes i can tell she is just lying to her own true self by really concealing it and pretending to be the more mature, clever version of me - but I've learnt to get over it; she has the right to do anything she wants. Nowadays, it's really un-nerving for me to hang around her since she doesn't even value my opinions, rolls her eyes at me and acts like i'm stupid. She even muttered to herself i was stupid today. I mean... geez ; i really don't want to start a fight over this for the sake of the others in my group but the issue isn't getting resolved. I have the potential and raw self confidence to stand up for my self, but I just can't find the words for it if she's going to glare at me and call me a dumb bimbo. She is incredibly good at lying, I've learnt over months.I'm not sure, maybe i am just frustrating, annoying and really really immature?

What hurts me the most is that, now she's gained the most benefits out of me eg. contacts, connections, self confidence, jokes, humour - she'll just run off and act like me with all the plus.

What should I do? Thanks guys in advance.

Just out of curiosity... be honest, I value it above all!

Me;

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