So the other day my almost 3 year old and I went to a place where basically there's a whole bunch of imagination stations for kids to play. When you get there, you take off your shoes and wear only socks. So I told my son to sit in the chair while I put on my socks. This unknown little girl (probably 3 or 4) went and sat in my son's lap (mind you there's 6 chairs and this is the only one occupied). So my son pushed her off his lap. Mind you she fell onto the chair next to him, not onto the floor. The child started screaming and the other mom kept saying how rude and mean my son was. She kept saying this over and over to everyone.
I did not punish him. I mean seriously, if a strange person sat on my lap I'd do the same thing.
I'm also very mad at that mom for saying how mean my son was.
Is it wrong that I'm mad at the other mom?
Is it wrong that I wasn't angry at my son and I didn't punish him?
Pantherempress2006-09-30T15:00:35Z
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You were right she was the rude one and her daughter is growing up like her, she probably sees her mom jump in strange men's laps alot.
Wow, and no, you are not wrong at all, considering that there were 6 chairs, and the little girl just fell onto A chair, and not the floor. I believe perhaps the mom thought it was mean for your son to push her daughter off *shrug* (because maybe she thought it was cute?), but I myself think it's slightly more awkward than cute to have a strange little girl or boy you don't know sit on your child's lap.
I honestly almost despise when you're not even in the wrong and everyone else starts to believe you are. Of course it would've been overboard to attack (verbally, of course, haha) the other mom, but anyhow, I don't think your son is under any fault at all. Just as long as he doesn't regularly treat strangers rudely. This is different though. That mom kind of went too far as to tell everyone else of how mean your son supposedly was. Especially if (or since) your son didn't even mean to be rude.
not wrong, but could have handled the situation differently, maybe explain to your son that maybe he should not have pushed her quite so hard as to make her fall but just enough to make her get off, then to the other mother, that had she been keeping an eye on her daughter this might not have happened, and that as your son is still only a toddler it is not his fault that he did not want a someone that he did not know climbing on him. i would then have told her to grow up and act her age, reminding her that she was a parent and not a child in the school playground running round telling tales. so no i do not think you are wrong. i would have been mad at her too
I guess all mothers can be a bit 'hyper' sometimes when something happens to their child (esp. around ages 3/4)... she was probably stuck in a moment where she couldn't think of anything else but how her daughter cried because someone pushed her off the chair...
but just tell ur son next time instead of pushing someone off like tht, tell him to tell whoever gets on his lap to get off of him instead ..
And if you do see the mother again, and if she still has tht pissed-off look on her face, just tell her ur sorry for what ur son did, and tht he didn't mean to hurt her or anything, and then explain what really happened, because i think the mother must've thought ur son did tht without thinking.. and remind her that ur son is still a kid as well.
No, you aren't wrong and neither was your son. This lady needs to be slapped. She's already prepping her daughter to be on the pole! There is absolutely no reason for her daughter to be running around sitting on other little boys' laps. That little girl needed to be reprimanded.
You shouldn't punish your son either. You can just tell him it's not right to put his hands on girls, but his reaction was ok to me. If he let the little girl stay on his lap, there would have been a little problem that needed to be fixed. Kids are kids, but that lady was acting like on also.