how can i get over one of my ex's?

he died in my arms long ago and people keep sayin that i should get over it why don't they understand that it's not that easy?????????????? :( :( i need yall's help please give me some advise all they say is well it's the past get over it it's been a couple of years now since his death his name was jake

2007-12-31T16:37:28Z

and i haven't been able to get over him ive tryed lovin some people but i haven't been able to like him it's tearin me apart ow can i tell them that it's not that easy at all.......i don't know if i ever can

2007-12-31T16:54:22Z

i haven't been able to get over him i always end up doing something i guess that reminds me of him and i feel like givin up but i know i should keep fighting this b/c it feels like all the time he's there with me it's just i can't see him

2007-12-31T18:04:30Z

ive tryed getting a appointment but with all the people troubled their ain't really any things open we found one but they weren't on my dads plan so i could go they canceled it on me so yea... and all this happened on all of the other stuff that happened most of the stuff happened when i was 12

Anonymous2007-12-31T17:43:00Z

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actually the only thing will be time and yes it's a good idea to talk to a professional. I was engaged to a fantastic young lady and lost her to breast cancer. I never felt more helpless in all of my life, wanting to help her but there's just nothing you can do. You'll make it , trust me .

Mando2008-01-01T00:53:00Z

I say go to a therapist / counselour very soon. I started going after a particulary painful experience in my life, and it helped considerably. Talking about it to someone who really knows how to help is amazing. I hope you get better =]

Anonymous2008-01-01T00:52:44Z

Hello. You don't need to get over it. Just embrace it as one of life's lessons and learn from it. Pain and sorrow are built in mechanism to help us along the way..

Jay2008-01-01T00:48:06Z

people die...
n you can't get over them cuz we alwayz have memories
so...
don't try to forget him...
make new relations ...
think tat he would want u to be happy n move on
WITH his memories
strengthen yourself

spiritwalker2008-01-01T00:40:44Z

babygirl, he does not want you to keep reliving the night over and over, he has passed on, and he knows you need to moved on with your life. He will always be with you, but your hurting him by staying in the past. You are missing out on so many things that you could be doing great at. Just remember he is always with you, go one with your life so he can be happy.

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