1. Your husband leaves you for your best friend, and you have a small child together.
2. After 20 years of marriage and 3 kids, your husband tells you he's gay.
3. You find out your husband "accidentally" got your sister pregnant.
Okay, I know they're all bad, but which one do you think is the worse and why? =)
Wendy B...LOL
commodore
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No 2. It more-or-less exactly happened to a good friend and destroyed her mental stability - she had test after test for STDs and HIV because he had been picking up rough trade all through their marriage.As well, she still, 10 years later, doubts every man who says he is attracted to her.
Mind you, if your wife in the same set up tells you she's found lurve with a woman, I can see that would destroy most men too.
The first option happens so often that it isn't a surprise in most cases.
The third leaves you the choice of your sister and your husband. Which one to gun down, I mean. LOL.
Vanity Affaire
I'd have to say my husband "accidently" impregnanting my sister. That would be like a double slap in the face because it's supposed to be two people that you're supposed to trust immensely.
With number 1, I'd get a new best friend and a new husband, with number 2, I'd feel like my life was a life, but you can always move on and find what's right for you. But number 3, you're being deceived by not only family, but also the person who swore to honor, love and be faithful to you and a child has to be the result of his "accident".
Anonymous
Getting my sister pregnant is worst. It shows that the husband is irresponsible in (a) having an affair with my sister and (b) not taking precautions and (c) doing all this "accidentally". Being gay (2) or falling in love with my best friend (1), by contrast, are matters of fate that I wouldn't so much blame my husband for.
busymum
OMG!!... Its a toss up between 2 and 3 for me as to which would be worse. 2 because after awhile your husbands love child would be your niece THAT would be very hard to deal with...AGggh that would be messed up Jerry Springer stuff
HOWEVER #3 is just disgusting.. 20years and 3 kids later of lying and betrayal.. AND being GAY.. that would be rough..infact that would be what I would choose as worse out of all of them.. Thats NASTY.. I don't necessarily have problem with gays (to each their own) BUT I would have a GIANT problem if it were my husband/ father of my kids!!! The risk he would have put us in for contracting of HIV/AIDS and stds in general is SOO high. OMG I couldn't imagine that the man I have been giving BJs too for 20 years...Finding out its been in a mans azz all that time Phuck thats sick.. I think I'd go homicidal on his azz!!
3 for sure HANDS DOWN THE WORST!!
Anonymous
Husband getting my sister pregnant. I would feel betrayed more by her than any best friend or man.
Its a hard choice though.