Adult children of Divorced parents...?

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Mine were divorced when I was very young, and I was grateful that I wasnt around the fighting anymore. However, when I grew up, I craved the family life I didn't have as a kid- so I chose the wrong man again and again. Looking back now, these men I chose were just like my dad- always out of a job, not providing for the family and always wanting to start an argument and were emotionally abusive. I'm 29 now and luckily I got my head on straight and am in a good relationship....Show more

The biggest negative is having to hear my parents talk so badly about each other growing up. Mostly my mom talking bad about my dad. Sometimes it was the other way, but not usually. Positively, I can't imagine them being anything that vaguely resembles happy together. Unhappy parents often raise unhappy kids. So at least I didn't have that. ...Show more

My parents are still together but have not had sex in about 22 years, so the just live together it is really horrible to watch, I think sometimes it would be better, if they both rather had someone, they could love, I am sure my dad has a bit on the side, but my mom nothing!...Show more

The best way to deal with it is to be positive. Your parents love you dearly, they simply have a problem with each other which you will never truly understand so don't even try. Help them both by treating them equally, don't play one off against the other and apportion no blame. You have them for the rest of their lives so try to get along....Show more

I thing there are more negative effects than positive

You can either love someone to much or too little
You either hold back or you come out of your shell
I held back pushed people away, hurt myself, was harmful and hurtful towards others

My brother is the complete opposite but also my step father didn't pester my brother like he did me...Show more