Adult children of Divorced parents...?

Mine were divorced when I was very young, and I was grateful that I wasnt around the fighting anymore. However, when I grew up, I craved the family life I didn't have as a kid- so I chose the wrong man again and again. Looking back now, these men I chose were just like my dad- always out of a job, not providing for the family and always wanting to start an argument and were emotionally abusive. I'm 29 now and luckily I got my head on straight and am in a good relationship.

The biggest negative is having to hear my parents talk so badly about each other growing up. Mostly my mom talking bad about my dad. Sometimes it was the other way, but not usually. Positively, I can't imagine them being anything that vaguely resembles happy together. Unhappy parents often raise unhappy kids. So at least I didn't have that.

My parents are still together but have not had sex in about 22 years, so the just live together it is really horrible to watch, I think sometimes it would be better, if they both rather had someone, they could love, I am sure my dad has a bit on the side, but my mom nothing!

The best way to deal with it is to be positive. Your parents love you dearly, they simply have a problem with each other which you will never truly understand so don't even try. Help them both by treating them equally, don't play one off against the other and apportion no blame. You have them for the rest of their lives so try to get along.

I thing there are more negative effects than positive

You can either love someone to much or too little

You either hold back or you come out of your shell

I held back pushed people away, hurt myself, was harmful and hurtful towards others

My brother is the complete opposite but also my step father didn't pester my brother like he did me

Caused mistrust in other people - especially in a relationship

Makes me always feel guilty about spending time with the one or the other parent

Makes special occasions very difficult

my dad and mom divorced

my life is negative

and know i only talk to my mom by secret on the phone

i hate this i just wanna get outa here

if you are over 12 you get to stay with whom you want!!!!!!

you have to homes more presents for christmas........

m m m they will love you os much & they will never let you down cause of their divorce

but you will get hurt

but ok...

each child deals with it in a diferent waY!!@!!!!