Adoptees - do you feel it is your place only to search or does your fmom have as much right to search as u do?
In other words - for those of you interested in search, would you prefer to find or be found? Or does it even matter either way?
In other words - for those of you interested in search, would you prefer to find or be found? Or does it even matter either way?
morris the cat
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I used to think that she should find me. I felt like I would welcome the knock on the door from her, but would never want to invade her privacy. Because of this, I never searched.
Now, I feel that if either party feels that they want or need to search for any reason then they should. There is nothing wrong with adoptees wanting to know where they came from and there is nothing wrong with mothers wanting to know how their children are. I think both should search if they want to.
What would I prefer? Honestly, there would be nothing better than to be found.
amyburt40
Both have the right to search. Most definitely.
spunk113
Not adopted, but I think if you give up the child, you give up all of your rights as a mother--including the right to know them. However, I think leaving contact info with the adopting agency is appropriate, so as to make it easier to be found if your child decides to seek you out.
concerned girl
I reckon being found would be better, because if you get chosen than it would make you feel good :)