Every year in my family it has been been at least one person that has caused this situation. My sisters used to say it was my mother. But she has been deceased for 9 years now and they still do it, so it was not her! Is there any suggestions on what can be done so this will stop? I'm at my wits end and am getting to the point I dread going. (please don't suggest not going, that isn't a feasible answer for me)
Elsie
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I would never suggest not going, but I will suggest you LET IT GO!!! How your siblings behave is not your responsibility. Do not call your sister and beg her to come; do not plead with your other family members to "behave" so she will come. This is their problem and their choice.
I used to get very involved in the family drama to the point where I nearly had a nervous breakdown. For my own sanity I had to back away. When the family called me to complain about another family member, I would simply say "You're talking to the wrong person. The person you should be talking to is (insert name of person they're complaining about here)". It only took 2-3 times for each person to understand that I was not going to running to the other person and try to "fix" the problem.
So definitely go, have a great time, and when your family starts talking about the person/people who chose to not attend, smile and say "You know what, you should call her/him/them" then walk away.