Ok.. so before I tell you my problem... let me tell you a little bit about myself. I am 16 years old (17 in August). I have had some crushes before, but all of them have been on older guys... like... 30 years old... :/
Ok, so anyway, I have another one... on this guy named Dustin. He is 30 years old (31 in September). I have had it for about a month now... and this one is not normal. I keep longing to be with him all the time, and want our hugs to last forever, and whenever I am not with him, I feel sad and lonely. I really don't know what to do. I have tried asking help from a few of my trusted friends... but it didn't seem to help. What I want to know is 1. Is it wrong for me to have this crush? 2. Should I tell him about it? I am like longing to try to get help from him, but I don't know if telling him about it is the right thing to do. Please help me!
naddyspud2010-05-03T11:00:59Z
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It definitely isn't wrong. I'm 17 and i've always liked older guys, younger guys just don't appeal to me. I've never been attracted to anyone under 30. On the telling him thing, it depends how he acts around you. You have to be careful. He might think of you of a younger sister if you are close or he could like you for all the wrong reasons. OR he might actually like you. Depends on how he acts around you.
First off! What is your relationship with this guy? That is important. How do you know him? But, he is too old for you, hun. I'm sorry, but its true. You probably like older guys because they are more mature. But that is almost old enough to be your father. I actually liked someone who was much older than I and things didn't work out. So, all and all, it is just like having a crush on your teacher. It's cute but don't go any farther than that relationship you already have:friends. Good luck!
The reason you have a crush on this guy is because he caring, more than likely he has a good job, and a nice car.He does not take you to burger doodle but to nice places to eat, he treats you like you are 25. He is going to make you do something you might regret and if not careful something that he will regret. I believe you when you say it is a crush, now make sure you treat it as one and let it past. After getting to know 30 year olds they carry alot of baggage like 25 year old girl friends, habits that you not need now, and debt. Please step back, look at the big picture and walk away.
Crushes go away; but If you're REALLY into older men, I guess you should just wait until you're 18. But, think about your future. Do you really see yourself in the future with an older man? I mean, c'mon. I'm sure you're bound to find someone your own age that you are really into. I'm 19 years old, and I love older women too. I used to have an unfair with this lady - she was 31 years old - but It didn't last too long. But,right now, I like my women youthful. :]
You are sixteen he is thirty.. BLOODY HELL?? You need some help girl you might have some issue's liking lots of older men feeling lonely and clingy It's not wrong for you to have a crush. It's not wrong for you to have a crush on a thirty year old, as long as you don't act on it.